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My boyfriend (24) puts no effort into gift giving for me (25) (by Sparky)
My boyfriend (24) puts no effort into gift giving for me (25)
We have been together for 4 years and there hasn?t been a single time he?s gotten me a gift I?ve liked, used, asked for, or wanted. We are very close, we spend so much time together, and it?s a constant disappointment every time and now I?m starting to feel as if it?s intentional or that he genuinely just doesn?t care to try.
I work in social media and I have an over abundance of clothes, shoes, makeup, etc in those categories. I tell him constantly ?please don?t get me anything clothing related I seriously don?t have the room anymore? and almost without fail, he gets me clothes every time. And the funniest part is, he gets me business casual clothes. I work from home as an independent contractor and have zero need for business casual (even thought I do have a handful of BC options if I need them).
this year I suggested not doing gifts because it?s really disappointing to put so much effort into someone else?s gift knowing that I?m going to receive a half @ssed gift. he wanted to do them anyways and as nicely as I could, I asked him to please not get me clothes. I asked for a piece of jewelry or some household items for my cats.
He got me clothes and shoes. A blouse and some flats. I?m so irritated and angry and at this point, it feels like weaponized incompetence and I hate to sound ungrateful but I?m genuinely at a loss for words now. How do I approach this?
TL;DR my partner puts no effort into gifts and repeatedly buys me items i specifically ask him not to buy and it?s upsetting me that he doesn?t care to try.
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We have been together for 4 years and there hasn?t been a single time he?s gotten me a gift I?ve liked, used, asked for, or wanted. We are very close, we spend so much time together, and it?s a constant disappointment every time and now I?m starting to feel as if it?s intentional or that he genuinely just doesn?t care to try.
I work in social media and I have an over abundance of clothes, shoes, makeup, etc in those categories. I tell him constantly ?please don?t get me anything clothing related I seriously don?t have the room anymore? and almost without fail, he gets me clothes every time. And the funniest part is, he gets me business casual clothes. I work from home as an independent contractor and have zero need for business casual (even thought I do have a handful of BC options if I need them).
this year I suggested not doing gifts because it?s really disappointing to put so much effort into someone else?s gift knowing that I?m going to receive a half @ssed gift. he wanted to do them anyways and as nicely as I could, I asked him to please not get me clothes. I asked for a piece of jewelry or some household items for my cats.
He got me clothes and shoes. A blouse and some flats. I?m so irritated and angry and at this point, it feels like weaponized incompetence and I hate to sound ungrateful but I?m genuinely at a loss for words now. How do I approach this?
TL;DR my partner puts no effort into gifts and repeatedly buys me items i specifically ask him not to buy and it?s upsetting me that he doesn?t care to try.
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