Should I (33F) tell my best friend that she (32F) hurt me by not really including me in her wedding?

My best friend of almost a decade got married about a week ago. I thought we were mutually each other's best friends: turns out I didn't even make it into her top three. This is a person who I see regularly, who I have traveled with extensively outside the country, I've celebrated a lot of life events with, and who officiated my wedding last year (I didn't have a bridal party, so she was the only person that had a special role).
Before I knew who her wedding party was, I had offered to do a reading, thinking I could return the favor for officiating our wedding. A couple weeks later, she asked me if I would do the reading and she said that would be great because she and her husband were deciding to keep the wedding party small. I was a couple drinks in, and it took me a second to realize that this was her way of saying I wasn't in the wedding party. I put on a good face, and thought, "Hell, at least I'm involved, and I'm sure she'll make keep me involved in other ways." I'm not a particularly traditional person, so maybe she figured I wouldn't care as much? Over the next year of planning, she didn't really include me, despite the fact that I offered help and expressed interest. I was feeling okay about the whole thing, but during the wedding, I found out that I wasn't invited to the rehearsal dinner, despite the fact that I would be doing something during the wedding. I had also asked that we also get a professional photo together so I could put it with one I had from my wedding. That didn't happen either.
Needless to say, I'm baffled and saddened by the whole thing. I'd like to pretend like I'm not hurt, but it's forced me to reevaluate a relationship that I considered on par with family. I went from thinking that this person was my ride-or-die, to feeling that she didn't want me around. Other people who know both of us are also confused and think it's weird. To be fair, their perception of our friendship could be biased by how I talk about it. My husband thinks I'm making a mountain out of a molehill, but he also doesn't have any close friendships that are anywhere as intimate as this.
Should I bring this up to my friend, or should I just stay quiet and distance myself a bit? I can't imagine that much good will come of bringing it up this late, but I truly feel like I've been grieving a deep friendship that I'm realizing now may have been a bit one-sided. I didn't want to bring it up before the wedding because wedding planning is stressful and I didn't want to be the person in her life causing drama. So folks, WIBTA if I brought this up a month (or more) after the wedding? Does it feel like the benefits of gaining some clarity benefit the potential awkwardness that might come from it?
TL;DR! Best friend of almost a decade didn't include me as much in her wedding or wedding planning. It has changed my understanding of our relationship, and made me question if I've just been misreading signals that we're not as close as I thought we were. Should I talk to her about it now that the wedding's over, or just swallow my pride and grief and focus on building other relationships?


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