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My (23F) partner (25M) is hangry at least once every time we hang out (by Sparky)
My (23F) partner (25M) is hangry at least once every time we hang out
And I?m getting a short fuse about it. I know I shouldn?t take it personally. I keep reading articles about it, but all of it is about offering sympathy to the grumpy partner ? but what about the partner that has to tolerate this behavior? What are good boundaries to have? How can I protect my peace?
Examples: One time I ordered us Chinese and accidentally had it delivered to my address (a 2 minute drive away). he was freaking out about it getting cold when we were grabbing it from my house. It made me feel horrible. The food was definitely not cold, btw. After, he apologized for being so dramatic. Another time, we bought a (big) tub of food to share but in the process of purchasing it he was complaining about me hypothetically eating all of the Mac and cheese in it. Again; made me feel horrible. I ended up not eating any of it. I can handle a few situations like this, but not every time we hang out.
Don?t get me started on the bringing snacks solution. I?ve brought snacks along with us but the snacks never seem good or filling enough and he?ll still be fussy afterwards.
It?s hard to not feel bummed out when we spend the weekend together and there?s always one point in time where he?s acting short, dragging his feet during our plans, or I?m anxious about going anywhere because he might get hangry. This problem is a source for many arguments we?ve had.
TL;DR: my partners consistent hangry mood is causing a rift in our relationship. I don?t know how to have proper boundaries about it.
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And I?m getting a short fuse about it. I know I shouldn?t take it personally. I keep reading articles about it, but all of it is about offering sympathy to the grumpy partner ? but what about the partner that has to tolerate this behavior? What are good boundaries to have? How can I protect my peace?
Examples: One time I ordered us Chinese and accidentally had it delivered to my address (a 2 minute drive away). he was freaking out about it getting cold when we were grabbing it from my house. It made me feel horrible. The food was definitely not cold, btw. After, he apologized for being so dramatic. Another time, we bought a (big) tub of food to share but in the process of purchasing it he was complaining about me hypothetically eating all of the Mac and cheese in it. Again; made me feel horrible. I ended up not eating any of it. I can handle a few situations like this, but not every time we hang out.
Don?t get me started on the bringing snacks solution. I?ve brought snacks along with us but the snacks never seem good or filling enough and he?ll still be fussy afterwards.
It?s hard to not feel bummed out when we spend the weekend together and there?s always one point in time where he?s acting short, dragging his feet during our plans, or I?m anxious about going anywhere because he might get hangry. This problem is a source for many arguments we?ve had.
TL;DR: my partners consistent hangry mood is causing a rift in our relationship. I don?t know how to have proper boundaries about it.
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