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My [33M] best friend [32M] of 7 years is terrible with, and to women. (by Sparky)
My [33M] best friend [32M] of 7 years is terrible with, and to women.
My best friend of the past couple years has some serious problems, and it worries me.
He's reasonably attractive, has a great job, is talented and interesting and wants more than anything else to meet meet and have a long term romantic relationship. Whenever he hits it off with somebody, however, he'll inevitably creep her out. I've never met anybody quite as inept at talking to women. He talks about himself and doesn't listen, gives unsolicited hugs, stands too close and hits on women with boyfriends.
He was raised in an evangelical christian family with a father that exercised complete control over every aspect of the women in his family. His mother and sisters exist on a fixed allowance and live their lives pending the approval of his father. Thankfully, he escaped the religious insanity, but the patriarchy did a number on him. I'm worried he doesn't respect women as intelligent and independent.
I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend [26F] for a year. We have a vibrant, caring and healthy relationship. For all intents and purposes, I have exactly the type of relationship my friend wants, but he refuses to acknowledge any of the good advice my girlfriend and I give him. It's maddening. We live in a liberal city in a liberal state both work in tech, the opportunity to meet and treat new friends well is abundant.
Does anyone have any experience with this type of situation? My friend has serious problems and I don't know how to help him.
TL;DR My best friend has no idea he might be a misogynist.
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My best friend of the past couple years has some serious problems, and it worries me.
He's reasonably attractive, has a great job, is talented and interesting and wants more than anything else to meet meet and have a long term romantic relationship. Whenever he hits it off with somebody, however, he'll inevitably creep her out. I've never met anybody quite as inept at talking to women. He talks about himself and doesn't listen, gives unsolicited hugs, stands too close and hits on women with boyfriends.
He was raised in an evangelical christian family with a father that exercised complete control over every aspect of the women in his family. His mother and sisters exist on a fixed allowance and live their lives pending the approval of his father. Thankfully, he escaped the religious insanity, but the patriarchy did a number on him. I'm worried he doesn't respect women as intelligent and independent.
I've been in a relationship with my girlfriend [26F] for a year. We have a vibrant, caring and healthy relationship. For all intents and purposes, I have exactly the type of relationship my friend wants, but he refuses to acknowledge any of the good advice my girlfriend and I give him. It's maddening. We live in a liberal city in a liberal state both work in tech, the opportunity to meet and treat new friends well is abundant.
Does anyone have any experience with this type of situation? My friend has serious problems and I don't know how to help him.
TL;DR My best friend has no idea he might be a misogynist.
Source.
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