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(Update) I (20 M) can't say "I love you" to my girlfriend (20 F) of one year, even though I care abo (by Sparky)
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(Update) I (20 M) can't say "I love you" to my girlfriend (20 F) of one year, even though I care about her deeply.
Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationshi...rlfriend_20_f/
A lot of good suggestions were made in my previous post. I didn't think I was going to be capable of saying it to her in person without the help of a therapist, so I decided to write a love letter. I remembered my girlfriend saying early on in our relationship that she'd love it if I wrote her one. I spent a few hours on it. I was afraid she wouldn't like it, but I still gave it to her when she came home - she loved it.
My girlfriend teared up after reading it. She told me that my letter was the most thoughtful thing anyone has ever given her. She gave me a hug and said "I love you". I don't know what happened - but I felt an urge that overpowered my fear of saying it back to her. I told her that I loved her. My girlfriend was surprised, and said this was the happiest moment of her life. We spent the next hour cuddling and telling each other how in love we were. It was a beautiful experience being verbally affectionate with my girlfriend.
It's been nearly two days since I gave her the letter. I'm comfortable enough to say that I love her back every time she says it to me now. I still might go to a therapist to sort out any further issues that have been affecting me because of my rough childhood, but for now I'm happy. I can't imagine how heartbreaking it must've been for my girlfriend to not hear her boyfriend say "I love you" for a whole year. It might be a little silly that I couldn't say it to her, but at least I'm able to now. I love my girlfriend.
My letter:
tl;dr: I wrote a letter to her, and she loved it. The letter made me feel comfortable enough to say "I love you" to her in person. I'm able to say that I love her every day now.
Source.
Original Post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationshi...rlfriend_20_f/
A lot of good suggestions were made in my previous post. I didn't think I was going to be capable of saying it to her in person without the help of a therapist, so I decided to write a love letter. I remembered my girlfriend saying early on in our relationship that she'd love it if I wrote her one. I spent a few hours on it. I was afraid she wouldn't like it, but I still gave it to her when she came home - she loved it.
My girlfriend teared up after reading it. She told me that my letter was the most thoughtful thing anyone has ever given her. She gave me a hug and said "I love you". I don't know what happened - but I felt an urge that overpowered my fear of saying it back to her. I told her that I loved her. My girlfriend was surprised, and said this was the happiest moment of her life. We spent the next hour cuddling and telling each other how in love we were. It was a beautiful experience being verbally affectionate with my girlfriend.
It's been nearly two days since I gave her the letter. I'm comfortable enough to say that I love her back every time she says it to me now. I still might go to a therapist to sort out any further issues that have been affecting me because of my rough childhood, but for now I'm happy. I can't imagine how heartbreaking it must've been for my girlfriend to not hear her boyfriend say "I love you" for a whole year. It might be a little silly that I couldn't say it to her, but at least I'm able to now. I love my girlfriend.
My letter:
Dear (girlfriend),
I've wanted to tell you this for ages, and I'm sorry that I've kept you waiting. I know how much those three words mean to you, but my childhood wasn't great. My parents didn't show me any affection, and as a result love is uncharted territory for me. I've never said it to anyone before, nor have I felt loved by anyone until I met you.
You mean more to me than anything in this world. Your happiness brings me so much joy in my life. I look forward to seeing you every morning. My life is made infinitely better because of you. Our time spent together is something I cherish dearly. I remember the first time you said you loved me. It made me so happy. That was the first time that anyone ever said "I love you" to me. I desperately wanted to say it back to you, but my fear of the unknown held me back.
I want to spend my every waking moment with you. A feeling of euphoria develops inside of me when we're with each other. I wish this letter could make up for all the times I should've been able to say it back to you. I'm extremely grateful and lucky to call you my girlfriend. You make me feel loved, and have given me the chance to love another person. I didn't know that was a possibility for me.
I love you.
I've wanted to tell you this for ages, and I'm sorry that I've kept you waiting. I know how much those three words mean to you, but my childhood wasn't great. My parents didn't show me any affection, and as a result love is uncharted territory for me. I've never said it to anyone before, nor have I felt loved by anyone until I met you.
You mean more to me than anything in this world. Your happiness brings me so much joy in my life. I look forward to seeing you every morning. My life is made infinitely better because of you. Our time spent together is something I cherish dearly. I remember the first time you said you loved me. It made me so happy. That was the first time that anyone ever said "I love you" to me. I desperately wanted to say it back to you, but my fear of the unknown held me back.
I want to spend my every waking moment with you. A feeling of euphoria develops inside of me when we're with each other. I wish this letter could make up for all the times I should've been able to say it back to you. I'm extremely grateful and lucky to call you my girlfriend. You make me feel loved, and have given me the chance to love another person. I didn't know that was a possibility for me.
I love you.
tl;dr: I wrote a letter to her, and she loved it. The letter made me feel comfortable enough to say "I love you" to her in person. I'm able to say that I love her every day now.
Source.
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