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[Update] My boyfriend [24/M] treats me harshly [18/F] and I can’t handle it anymore. I need to leave (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (30 / M-F / Massachusetts)
3-Jan-18 3:51 am
[Update] My boyfriend [24/M] treats me harshly [18/F] and I can’t handle it anymore. I need to leave him, but I’m scared and I feel like I have no way out.

Original: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationshi...8f_and_i_cant/
I received so much love and support in the original post that writing this update was the least I could do. I hope I didn’t write too much. I’m forever grateful, thank you :)
I called my parents when Octavian was at work. It was hard for me to say that I lied to them. I told them everything. I said he was actually 24 years old, and I explained everything he’d been doing to me. My parents were really worried about me, and they said they'd do anything to help me leave. My parents sent me money for transportation/a plane ticket.
I started preparing to leave by packing a few things and getting together my valuables. Octavian came home and he asked me how my day was. I almost cried, because that was the first time in a few months where he showed that he cared about my life. I almost caved in and told him that I wanted to break up with him, but I stopped myself.
The next morning I finished packing and I bought a plane ticket to go back home. On the trip to the airport, I was already questioning if this was the right thing to do. I felt anxious knowing I'd never see Octavian again, but I kept telling myself I deserved better than him and that if he loved me he would've never done these things to me.
My parents were at the airport when I arrived home. They were happy to see that I was safe and finally away from Octavian. I cried and told them how much I missed them and I apologized for lying to them. They told me none of this was my fault, and they understood why I'd lie to them about his age. Octavian blew up my phone with messages after he figured out I left him. He begged me to give him another chance and promised me he’d change himself to be the boyfriend I deserved. I told him to never contact me again and promptly blocked all contact from him. Octavian didn't listen and called my parents. I heard him cry and plead with them try to convince me to come back. My parents didn’t put up with his begging and told him to never speak to their daughter again.
It’s been almost a week since I left Octavian. I realize now the full extent of how abusive he was to me, and that I’m okay with being single. I still miss him at times, but I know my feelings for him will fade away eventually and I just have to stay strong. There are still a lot of things I have to sort out. I want to continue studying at my dream university, and my parents are helping me find living accommodations for next semester. My parents have been so supportive of me through all of this. I want to repay them back somehow, but knowing their daughter is safe and happy is all they want in life.

Without the support of this Forum Section, I couldn’t have brought myself to leave him. I didn’t expect people to give such detailed advice, offer me a place to stay, or even pay for my plane ticket. The amount of empathy, compassion and help I received from complete internet strangers brought tears to my eyes. I wish there was a better way to express my gratitude

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 MrWalkSoftly (16)     (59 / M-F / Louisiana)
3-Jan-18 4:30 am

 

 

 
 
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