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Am I [28F] wrong or taking advantage of my [30M] husband for being a childless housewife? (by Sparky)
Am I [28F] wrong or taking advantage of my [30M] husband for being a childless housewife?
My husband and I moved to a new city a year ago for his job. I had a job in our old city but I quit in order to move. His career is much more lucrative than mine and this move meant that he would make much more than the both of us did put together in our previous city. This move also brought us both closer to our extended families. We were both in favor of moving. We liked our old home, but we're both very family oriented and felt like we were missing out on our family's (especially nieces and nephews) lives.
Initially, I had planned to look for a new job in this city, though possibly not in my established career because of its low earning potential. I taught preschool. I was making 30K at my previous position while working 50+ hours a week. In addition to my teaching certs, I have a BA from a well respected university. As much as I enjoyed teaching pre-k, the amount of work, time, and stress I put in was not justified by my salary.
In our new city, I interviewed at a few places and there was one position that I was called back for a second interview for that ultimately would up going to a different candidate. Shortly after I found out that I didn't get the job I was hoping for, it looked like we might need to move again so I slowed down on finding a job in my city because it wasn't necessary financially and I knew we might be moving again soon.
Things have calmed down again. It looks like we're staying where we are at least for the next few months. My husband keeps telling me that he doesn't care if I have a job. Honestly I'm starting to feel like I don't really want one. I like being able to enjoy him when he's home. I like that one of us is able to figure out errands, cooking, and cleaning without it eating into the little bit of time we have to spend together. I feel less stressed.
At the same time I feel guilty. We don't have kids, thought we do want them, so it's not like staying home is a full-time job. There are definitely times in the middle of the day when I have nothing to do. I've been looking into part-time jobs that I could do from home. I am also keeping feelers out for a job that I might actually want. That said, I have zero drive to throw myself into a full-time job that I don't want unless it pays better than my previous position.
So I guess my question is: I was not planning on becoming a housewife, but I am one. I prefer it to the job I had previously. I am open to finding a new career, but not unless the money is right for what I am being asked to do. I feel horribly spoiled, but my husband does not seem to mind at all. Is this something I should be feeling bad about?
tl;dr: I'm an accidental housewife. I like it. My husband is supportive of it. I'm considering sticking with it. Thoughts?
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My husband and I moved to a new city a year ago for his job. I had a job in our old city but I quit in order to move. His career is much more lucrative than mine and this move meant that he would make much more than the both of us did put together in our previous city. This move also brought us both closer to our extended families. We were both in favor of moving. We liked our old home, but we're both very family oriented and felt like we were missing out on our family's (especially nieces and nephews) lives.
Initially, I had planned to look for a new job in this city, though possibly not in my established career because of its low earning potential. I taught preschool. I was making 30K at my previous position while working 50+ hours a week. In addition to my teaching certs, I have a BA from a well respected university. As much as I enjoyed teaching pre-k, the amount of work, time, and stress I put in was not justified by my salary.
In our new city, I interviewed at a few places and there was one position that I was called back for a second interview for that ultimately would up going to a different candidate. Shortly after I found out that I didn't get the job I was hoping for, it looked like we might need to move again so I slowed down on finding a job in my city because it wasn't necessary financially and I knew we might be moving again soon.
Things have calmed down again. It looks like we're staying where we are at least for the next few months. My husband keeps telling me that he doesn't care if I have a job. Honestly I'm starting to feel like I don't really want one. I like being able to enjoy him when he's home. I like that one of us is able to figure out errands, cooking, and cleaning without it eating into the little bit of time we have to spend together. I feel less stressed.
At the same time I feel guilty. We don't have kids, thought we do want them, so it's not like staying home is a full-time job. There are definitely times in the middle of the day when I have nothing to do. I've been looking into part-time jobs that I could do from home. I am also keeping feelers out for a job that I might actually want. That said, I have zero drive to throw myself into a full-time job that I don't want unless it pays better than my previous position.
So I guess my question is: I was not planning on becoming a housewife, but I am one. I prefer it to the job I had previously. I am open to finding a new career, but not unless the money is right for what I am being asked to do. I feel horribly spoiled, but my husband does not seem to mind at all. Is this something I should be feeling bad about?
tl;dr: I'm an accidental housewife. I like it. My husband is supportive of it. I'm considering sticking with it. Thoughts?
Source.
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