For those that saw my opposite friends threads...this is what prompted it. My brother in law loves my sister like I have never seen anyone be loved. He is a great guy and literally lived to make her happy. He has one flaw tho...jealousy, it genuinely breaks his heart that she wld share something of herself with another man. He thinks she shld want to only share with him.. And he wld NEVER be overly friendly with another female. My sister played in poker tournements while he was at work and has been playing the same tournements for yrs, so she met an older gentleman and became friendly with him at these tournements. She was going to play in a big tournement in okc (a cpla hours from her town) and the man needed a ride to the same tournemant so she drove him there...they stayed for 5 days seperate rooms and she drove him back....on her way home she called her husband and told him she was getting off on her exit and wld be home in 30 min when in reality she was on a whole different highway becuz she had just dropped that man home. 3 minutes after her conversation with her husband she was in a head on collision and was instantly killed. Now my brother in law has saw all the calls between them on his cell phone and believes my sis was being unfaithful....he asked another sis about it and she denied any knowledge abt the friend....he is going to ask me and I dont know what to tell him...I don't know if it wld be best to only let him wonder or if i shld tell him the truth. Sis was NOT cheating, the friend was yrs older and she just enjoyed sharing poker with him. It WILL break my brother in laws heart tho. My last conversation with my sis was actually a fight abt this cuz I was trying to make her tell my bro in law....I told her if she wanted to go to okc with her friend that was fine, but she shld tell her husband! We fought bad abt it......any thoughts abt what I shld do? Particularly any of u men that can put urselves in my bro in laws shoes?

Tell the truth it will hurt in the short term but in the long term he will be better for knowing she was faithfull

tell him the truth. Whether she had been cheating or not, either way he deserves the truth. Now what he chooses to do with it is up to him. Good luck on this cause i knw it wnt be easy.

i agree with you and he, she should have told him since hiding it only made it look suspicious (even though nothing untoward was happening) but he should have trusted more too. And try not to feel bad about the fight girl, she knew your love. I hope that helps some.

Ouch !!!!

I hate that for u to lose ur sister. God be with u n ur family.

He should know the truth so he will Atleast know she wasn't cheating....yes she kept it from him and that's painful but its better then thinking she was unfaithful

We didn't see eye on many things but we were VERY close...that is what I am choosing to remember....and I know she wlda told James abt her friend...she cld never keep anything from him for long...they have been together since she was 14 and he was 17....only each other for both of em...he is just a broken shell right now...

I know telling him is the right thing...I cant believe my other sis didnt...he is such a wreck she just cldn't do it. And I will tell him but this is going to be so damn hard! Really makes one question the choices we make tho. You never realize the far reaching affect they can have till it is too late.....