@sexigrandma: what have means in ur mind for real ppl ? Every person feels he is real one while some other consider them wrong

We shouldnt bring our baggage into relationships yet we do. I want someone whose sorted his issues out but its also said we help heal ea others wounds n if it doesnt help we need move on so other can find right person to help them heal. I need someone whose healed and doesnt need me to help him heal cos been ther done that and two marriages down the drain. Third time il marry in heart-dont need paper for a commitment!

Obviously YES... With time u will see them...

They are...just look around u and u wil find them..

@expactation: True very true

Im starting to think biggest problem looking for right person is we shouldnt look cos when look we may tend to settle! Perhaps when ya stop looking to hard-good things happen? Fear of loneliness makes us settle for whats not always right for us. I nearly made big booboo but after two mths i dumped him-he was no good for me! Hallelujah i saw quick enuf!

I need to understand? Why if you give is it such a big threat or have i chosen wrong? What does a man want? You be the dutiful committed partner but yet it backfires. Why is giving such an issue? Why are men afraid of commitment-its like a swear word! Does a man want a silent woman cos then il never find one cos i talk the hind leg off a donkey cos i need stimulation like i breathe air! Ive experienced this from men in my country, yet american men seem intouch with their feelings and expressive

I would say that expectations aren't necessarily there when the relationship starts out. But over the course of time the expectations upon one another can grow, once you know their weaknesses and strengths, and that dependence upon the other can put a strain on a relationship. People just change.

@Trisha777: American men have their different flaws..alot of men are immature, others are dominating...

Why are men so afraid of emotions, not all men but some. What if that emotional person was one who could make you happiest person alive cos they wear their heartson sleeve-im talking when guy feels mutually about a woman but he would rather run than face emotion?