So Ladies please tell me why is it hard for you fine and smart and beautifull women. That got hurt by guys who was not really in love with you? I got hurt to but I got up from the heavy fall that one girl that did me wrong. So please be honest with your answer

I dont honestly know if i understand correctly your Q and my answer is base from what i understand (sorry english is not my 1st language)

I can't say that my ex never loved me, i knew he did but as a human being he was tempted and was weak to resist. It takes time for me to get over from that pains and every one of us has different coping strategies.

I will tell u why....its not "the guy" that hurt us by not loving us. To me, it would be the trust i confided in him, my personal feelings, possibly my body (sex) my time, my energy, etc. So to have a man HURT me he would have to lie and deceive me, if he dont love me, theres usually signs. Women trust easier then men, we fall harder and faster, and everyone heals from heartbreak, but everyone heals at a different rate. Sometimes its so sudden and so expected that whether i was even in love with the guy, knowing i was lied to still is heartbreaking and takes time.

Brite is right about everyone healing at different rates. As for finding someone take your time to get to know them. Spend time with that as a friend first and make them laugh and enjoy your company before long they will seek you out to talk to you.

@Briteeyes1211: But we are the same in all things that every day human beings do.

@Rainbowbutterfly: Each one of us can over come ours love pain. The thing is not to give up on it. And forgive that person who wrong you.

@Dimensions: The way I see it, if a man and a woman are truely in love, BOTH will hurt when the relationship ends. If you are really and honestly in love with the person you are with, it's going to hurt like hell when they walk away. I don't think it's so much about the sex of the broken heart, as it is about who was unready for the relationship to end. In that case, male or female, I say give yourself as much time as you need to heal. Don't rush things. Also, only you will know when you're ready to get back out there.
I was devestated when my ex and I split up, because it wasn't my choice. Being left out of the decision, left me totally blind sided. That takes a while to get over. But every day is a new day, and I believe the universe has a plan for me. I don't hate my ex, nor do I want to be with him again. You can't begin to love someone again, if you are holding onto anger, (and a whole host of other emotions) for the person who hurt you... Sorry if I'm rambling :)

@IrishLove1988: I like to talk to you that if u dont like to talk to older man