if you try to "make" people what you want them to be... then you are controlling. let people be who they are not who you want. we wont get anywhere if we think we have the right to change someone.

I'd rather be with someone who I wouldn't want to change. Not that they would be the "perfect match" because there is no such thing, but if I'm not trying to change anything about them (though I will dislike some things) then they are who I should take a chance with :)

@lovablesweetyy: i cant help it i got to say it hell no! U cannot change ppl even if u could why? I want to love someone just the way they are flaws, too. Hell im not perfect and i want someone to love me for me not try to change me. I dont want a cheater, controller, or abuser but u cant change ppl like that u can run the other way avoid them. I will never be controlled again!

@Crazybutterfly: yes exactly! you have to accept the faults too. people today are so picky and self centered. they think if they dont like 1 or 2 things about a person then that person isnt for them. for me.... the good should at the very least outweigh the bad.... but theres gonna be bad no matter what. if i can accept someone for thier weight, mannerisms, etc. then id expect the same.

I spent years believing someday...he gonna see the good and treat me rt. I was blind. I was faithful even after he told me to my face he cheated. Yet he accused me. I know I am crazy and I may be vulernable alot and I cuss alot. But I think some things can be accepted. Most ppl have baggage to deal with but if love is gonna last we got to be understanding of it. Not try to make each other different from what we are.

How bad is it when someone wants the other to cheat to make themselves feel better about their own infidelity?? I aint stooping to that level for anyone!

Wow you just described perfectly every man ive ever encountered....hmmm...i wonder what would happen if i treated people like that?? That's not me so ill never know...........that was well written.

@ATLANTASCORPIO: well hopefully hun you never let your experiences turn you into the hateful woman i described...... and thank you for not taking offense to it. also... everyone so far has said i wrote that very well..... is it really that well written?

@PaulG7719: yes it is

Yes it is!