Ahhhh! I totally understand. Im glad you gained strength enough and put all your faith in God to get you out of those abusive relationships and want to raise your children to be better people. Hell, to want better for yourself too. That's wonderful. The thing I think I admire even more about your situations is that you are not letting them weigh your heart and mind down and cause you to block your willingness and desire to find a warm and loving man. I allowed this to happen to me in the past and it isn't what God meant for any of us. God is mightier than our hurt and pain isn't he girl? I know that's right!!! :)

@JustMeAndYou77: Girl. I love your threads. you force out the true of personalities and yet your so graceful about it. your a wonderfull host.

I personally went through the grief process ( just like when you loss a loved one ) so it wasn't easy at all but reminding myself that I must have to move on and accepting the fact that its over and there's no replay , no part 2 made the healing process a little bit easy compared in keeping of denying myself the facts .

Keeping the routine ( work, hobbies and family bonding ) helped a lot too ..

Thank you so much Twoinchheels but a lot of your posts do the same for me. And, yes, I actually read them ok?lol I filter lots of posts but there are those like yours that are worth reading. You talk about God, which is something that we tend to forget about. Im not a religious person per say, but I do believe we need a certain amount of belief and faith in our relationships and in our selves. So, I appreciate that from you.

I choose none of the above. I say "Here's to the past, they can kiss my glass, I hope she's happy with him." I simply move on and worry about me and my 2 sons.

You make a very very good point Rainbowbutterfly. You mentioned everything as a process of moving on. This is so true. Taking time to go through those stages as a human being is a part of life. Some people, including me, wanted to bypass them but it will only leave us lacking even more because we've skipped a few steps...cheated ourselves. We gotta give ourselves time to go through the motions. I also liked the part about having family or supportive people around. Yes, very well said!!

pffft lol Hiya hollabak! Missed seeing you around for a few days. How was work and how's the boys? As for your post, it was sooo deep and touched me right in my eyeball lmao You're a trip!

I took door one without the crying. I'm usually good when i realize that i need to move on.

lol bigred but nice choice :)

@JustMeAndYou77: The kids are great and work was good. Was a fun week in Montgomery, AL. Was supposed to leave out for Claxton, GA today but it's gonna rain. May leave out tomorrow or Wednesday. Depends on the weather.