Two weeks ago, I met a guy who's essentially everything I've ever wanted in a man. He's handsome, intelligent, young, has the same sense of humor as me, and makes me laugh. He and I even share the same fetishes - fetishes I thought no other sane person on earth, or at least in my state, had (yeah, they're that weird). We talk every day and hang out all the time. He asked me to be his girlfriend; of course, I said yes.

Before I tell you my problem, please note that I don't really see it as a problem - I'm still going to be with him regardless of what your answer is. He and I met a day or two after I broke up with my boyfriend of the time and a week after his girlfriend had left. As he put it, "she just took all her stuff and left," and they had been fighting. I guess she still thinks he's her boyfriend... the girl has a serious drug addiction and he fears that if he changes his relationship status on Facebook, it will ruin her. I really don't care about Facebook, as I don't need a status update to solidify a relationship ;P, but it seems that's the only thing keeping him tied to her. Should I wait to get serious with him until he officially breaks it off - straight up tells her he's seeing me - or should I just go with the flow?

He is leaving that string tied to her in case you two dont work out if hes completly done or completly commited to you he would let her know if you allow she will always be his steady drip my opinion

I think u should go with the flow but with caution. Theres a reason he dont want to change his status. If this girl left, then he shouldnt care what she says or thinks about it, if he is truely done with her. Holding onto something that doesnt exsist isnt gonna help anyone, he needs to let her go...all of her...hes got to let go of the past before if he can ever plan to move forward with u

What's the point of asking some advices then?

But just incase, here are the 2 questions ..1. Is that what you want in a relationship?
2. Are you prepared for the consequence in the future? girl will never give up him- you won't too-guy undecided

Oh OP, I don't want to sound rude to you. Not my intention. My apology

@Briteeyes1211: sounds like he still has fellings for her. So in doing this he is disrespecting you so your not suppose to be joyful about it. If u want to go with the flow how much time do u want to invest to find out he cant move past his ex

Don't worry, it didn't come off as rude. :D

Well, I'd agree that he's keeping her around if it doesn't work out with me... if it wasn't for the drugs. He used to be a hardcore drug user, and she still is. He's been clean for more than a year. To watch her shoot up all the time was an intense trigger for him, and he was about to end the relationship when she left. With the spot she's at right now - rock bottom, to be exact - she might try something stupid if she finds out he wants absolutely nothing to do with her anymore. I understand the whole "let 'em down slowly" thing, because I used to be crazy like her too, without all the drugs.

I'm definitely telling him that I can't let this get serious until he breaks it off with her, that's for sure. ;P

Ifhe is really worried about her get her n rehab or hospital all he doing maken sure hegonna get his i say this out of experiance

I hope that's not what he's in it for ;P