Okay, so I've run into this scenario a few times in my life so I thought I'd ask.

When a guy is facing a decision between two females, why doesn't he give both an equal shot before choosing if he obviously likes both?

I was talking to a guy a couple weeks ago I had just met and we hit it off. He was single and flirty and we were taking our time getting to know eachother. He was out of state on a business trip for a few weeks and it was obvious we were going to schedule our first date when he got back. Out of the blue his ex gf from college years shows up and wants a "friendly dinner" to catch up. He tells her no connections because he lives several states away and she agrees. She just wants to "catch up". In the interest of being open and honest he tells me about it and since I'm really good at reading people I had a bad feeling despite the fact that she lived states away that she was going to be a threat. I told him my concerns that she was after him to which he replied I was "just being paranoid" and I had "nothing to worry about" and that his ex was a "straight shooter". If that was her intent she'd have said so. I wasn't buying it so he offered to take co workers to the dinner too and all of them bailed. Which she couldn't have been more ecstatic about from the text she sent him saying "yayyy! I mean aw that's too bad JP :)" Still he said I was just worried for nothing. And is calling her egghead and saying "oh brother" to her texts and showing them to me. The night of the dinner, he didn't text me the rest of the night. Very uncharacteristic. The following day was the same until I texted him. Things seemed fairly normal. He tells me at the dinner the previous night with his ex that she wanted to get together to tell him she got a job offer in the same state he and I live in and she was considering taking it but wanted his input. He told her not to take it on the presumption they would be an item when she moves there. The following day, something felt off. He texted me a lot less and way slower and nor flirting or saying a whole lot plus no endearments like usual such as "babe" "gorgeous" "beautiful" and "sexy lady". I didn't mention it for fear he would get scared that I was rushing it. I did ask him at one point though if he wanted her back. His reply was "I don't want anything right now" and when I asked where we stood he said "the same place as two people that just met and are trying to get to know eachother. See even though I was feeling uneasy, I believed what he was telling me and felt secure in it because he was intelligent, open, responsible and mature. The next day was the same. Later that evening he tells me he's out with his ex again at dinner and later says "we need to talk". And right then I knew what was going to happen but I let him speak his mind. He says that he and her are going to "give it a go" and he "understood" if I was "upset".

So guys.....WTF happened here?

I was obviously upset he dumped me for another girl. Ex or otherwise and felt totally blindsided by the words he was feeding me. But more I was upset that for one he lied about not "wanting anything right now" and two that he said yes to her without even giving a shot. A date or two to see how it goes before deciding on either one. I probably would still been disappointed but a lot less so if I'd had a real chance with him and probably would have been more gracious about stepping away. He wasn't even having sex with her. And to my knowledge despite the fact they dated before I don't believe they ever have.

Why don't men make those type of dating triangles more fair?

Its not fair. Just be yourself. A real man makes the time for you and has eyes only for you.