Boyfriend is inconsiderate and it?s making me question everything

My (24F) boyfriend (24M) has shown many examples of being inconsiderate. We've been together for 3 years, living together for 1 and I don't know when I started noticing his inconsideration but it's seriously bugging the hell out of me.
Last night I was very obviously reading a book in bed, as I sometimes like to do, and as he was coming out of the bathroom, he turned the lights off in our room. Again, I was obviously reading and he saw this before he went in. So I ask him, "Hey, why'd you turn the light off? I'm still reading." He ignored me and went back into the bathroom. He came out again, and again I asked why he turned the light off. He said it's time for bed. For context, it was earlier than we normally go to bed. I told him that it wasn't cool, I wasn't done reading and if he could turn the light back on. To which he replied no. He said "Once you start paying the electric bill, then you can keep it on, but I say it stays off." For even more context, I'm at stay at home mom and he works and pays the bills. So I respond that it was rude to do that and not nice, he could've at least asked me, and he tells me to stop being rude to him and stop yelling (I wasn't yelling, especially since our kid was sleeping & I wasn't being rude). I tell him that and he brushes me off, saying goodnight. I turn my phone flashlight on to finish off the the last few pages, and then he starts acting all 'nice' saying "Please go to sleep and cuddle with me" but I was still annoyed that he did that and never apologized and then started saying I was the mean and rude one.
It's not just this incident though. He claims all the time that he "gives, gives, gives" and all I do is take and never reciprocate. I find that to be untrue. For someone that doesn't have any income (even if I ask him for money, he makes me tell him what I'm gonna buy with it), I feel like I still do decent with being considerate. I always buy him little candies when I go out or send him photos of things that remind me of him. When he's sick, I pick up all the medicine I know, make tea, make meals, wash his stuff and dry it so it's always warm. I look for shows/movies I think he'd enjoy so when he's home, we can try to watch it together. If I see he's running low on something or needs a new pair of whatever, I try to buy it. I make meals that I know he enjoys. I feel like I'm a considerate person, when he does not reciprocate majority of that. In the beginning, he was sweet and would write me cards just because, but after a couple months, I guess he stopped.
Also to add, yes he pays the bills, but that isn't without me having to remind him when certain bills are due. Even after I tell him, he won't do it, so it's not until I get a phone call from whatever company that they're going to shut off our electric or water that he then decides to pay. And he has the money, I don't understand why he doesn't pay it when I remind him, and it's every month on the same day. I don't get why he can't put a reminder on his phone to pay the bills on time. So I stay at home, raise our kid, keep the home together (clean, cook, organize, etc), arrange all outings, plan all trips to visit family, keep in touch with everyone, and it's 24/7 because even when he gets home, he stays on his phone and in the bathroom like 80% of the time. So I'm still dealing with our child on my own, up until bedtime.
Again, we have a kid together so I feel like it makes it hard. I've tried speaking to him about being more considerate, but then he gives me the speech of how much he "gives, gives, gives" and it's never enough and when I specifically ask what it is that he gives (not in a rude way, just for clarity), he gets upset that I even ask and says "If you don't see it, then that's sad." So yeah, what do I do? Dating.mobi help please because I don't know if I can see the rest of my life being like this where I feel like the only person who cares about me seriously is me.
TL;DR: My boyfriend is inconsiderate. He turned the light off while I was reading and then got upset that I was upset about that. He's done other things too, but what should I do? I've spoken to him already and he says he already gives so much, he can't possibly give anymore.


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