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Should I express my disappointment with my husband? (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
1-Oct-24 2:20 pm
Should I express my disappointment with my husband?

My husband 33m and I 37f have birthdays 4 days apart. His birthday was last Thursday today is my birthday. On his birthday after work I picked up a taken n bake pizza of his choice. I baked a cake as a suprise and overall made sure his evening was a good one. Today he comes home from work wishes me a happy birthday and asks if I'd like him to go get a cake. He will be making dinner but I had to ask a few days ago if he would. I don't want to sound ungrateful but I went to great lengths to plan ahead and make sure he had the best evening I could give him. I know he cares but it just feels like he isn't putting in as much effort as I did. I would also guess that adding to this feeling is the gift he gave me. He will occasionally buy flavored pipe tobacco and I will occasionally partake. He has two tobacco pipes that we use. Ive never showed interest in owning my own he even asked me once if I'd like my own and I said no. Well thats what I got for my birthday a tobacco pipe. It's also not a fancy carved one like his it's nice but it's essentially a simple wooden pipe. He is a very caring and considerate person normally but I guess this all feels phoned in to me. I don't know if I should express this or if this is one of those situations where you smile and move on because life is about more than this one thing. I also don't want to hurt his feelings but I can't lie and say mine aren't a bit bruised.
TL;DR: husband turned in a lukewarm effort on my birthday should I communicate this or just move on?
Update:
Thank you all for your comments I appreciate it. Please let me clarify the pizza wasn't frozen nor was it half measures on my part. He asked for a Papa Murphys specific take and bake pizza with very specific toppings. This was his requested dinner. I didn't pop in a frozen box pizza. This was a hand crafted pizza with the toppings and sauce he wanted. And yes the cake was home made as a suprise. Despite it being homemade it was the flavor and frosting he requested. I had asked him days before what type of cake he'd like and instead of buying said cake I made him one as a suprise.


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