30F Is my spouse 33M holding me back in life? Should I leave?

My spouse has always had a pretty laid back attitude about life, and I loved that because it balances out my hectic life and he reminds me to take things slow.
He has a good job that doesn't require too much work, so he has a lot of free time which he uses to play video games. I have a high stress job that earns me a good salary, that I love and have progressed quickly up the ranks thanks to my hard work. It's not a typical 9-5, I work late sometimes and on weekends but get generous vacation and I always make sure I'm around for dinner and we spend most weekends together.
Last year I decided to take a few months sabbatical to focus on a passion project that I recently completed. Now I'm ready to go back to work and work on both simultaneously.
My spouse flat out said he'd leave me if I returned to work. He said that he wants me to stay home, even if my passion project earns no money ever. He wants me to be there for him as a wife, otherwise I'm just a roommate to him and he cant be happy that way.
From my perspective, I worked hard for my career and we live in a HCOL city and haven't been able to buy a home yet and we're 7 years into our marriage. I want to buy a home, buy my dream car, travel and enjoy my life. All of which I need money to do because my spouses salary isn't enough to support us both or even qualify for a mortgage. He thinks otherwise and seems to have concocted a fantasy where he believes he can buy a 4 million dollar house in 5 years...I've tried showing him the math doesn't add up at all...no dice. He's deluded himself into believing this.
Additionally, in his free time during the sabbatical, he spent it playing video games and I had to coordinate myself around his schedule. Our together time only was able to be when his friends arent available to play games which ****** me off to no end. It seems to me that hes trying to strong arm me into shifting my whole life into being convenient for him without regard for my happiness or what I want and that makes me mad. It's like he thinks my sole purpose in life is to fit into his life, to smile, cook, clean, be pretty and let him do whatever.
Well, I am going back to work. I put my foot down on that decision and he said well, I want 3 full days (72hrs) of your time every week to be with me and if you cant make that work then it's over. This means all the chores, dinners, etc. have to be done when I log off of work on weekdays and if I can't make a day, then I have to add an additional day to the following week.
I feel suffocated. I feel angry. I feel like I dont know this man who wants me to be a 1950s housewife all of a sudden. I feel like I want to leave now. I don't know what to do.
Please tell me your thoughts Dating.mobi. Help.
TLDR; Spouse wants me to quit my job and be a SAHW or else he leaves.


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