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Should I (32M) call this relationship with my (32F) quits? (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
1-May-20 3:15 am
Should I (32M) call this relationship with my (32F) quits?

I love this girl a lot. I have absolutely no doubt that she loves me too.
The thing is that she is going through a rather terrible time right now. Like, a seriously bad time. Think along the lines of evicted, electricity shut off, then reported to police for fraud. None of this is actually her fault. Her mum palmed the issue off on her and disappeared. Since my girlfriend was the one left in the flat, she is the one that has to deal with the issues. The day they happened, she suggested I get out of the relationship there and then because it was wrong to drag me down too. I refused. I stayed the next month, hardest month of my life due to these issues (it is hard for me to work without electricity), but I done the best damn job I could.
Last Friday, she just 'disappeared'. I mean, i headed to do my work and she was meant to return home, but she disappeared. Phone off. Facebook not connected. Nothing. Turns out she reverted to 2015 self. She then drank a bit on a park bench somewhere, before she went to a new work friends to play some games. She got back, apologised and said she was an awful person for disappearing and making me feel horrible for disappearing. She said she was sick, and she would only get sicker throughout the month as the stress wore on. She asked me to go home so she could have space to deal with the practical side of things. So, I did. She insisted she loved me a lot, and that she wouldn't break up with me once I left. She just needed some space to deal with this situation.
I got home on Saturday, and she has barely spoken. I understand it is a terrible situation, but she has barely spoken. No contact. When she has spoken, she disappears for hours and it is hard to form a conversation with her. This is understandable as limited options to charge her phone right now. There are no 'I love you' or 'I miss you'. Nothing. She even suggested I try and build up my social contacts where I live again, so I don't just rely on her as she has no idea what is going to happen. I then called and said "is this you breaking up with me?" and she said the only reason I need to know the answer is because I am trying to judge how much time I want to put into the relationship. That isn't the case. It was just a weird suggestion of hers. She then said she may break up with me if this situation doesn't resolve itself.
She lives around 400 miles away, so i can't just go there. Not that I would anyway, because this situaiton is quite bad and she needs to deal with it.
However, should I call it quits now? She hasn't broken up with me. Hell, when I left, she was talking about marriage and living together. The exact things I want from her. I love her more than anything in the world. That is what I want my life to be. Is it just because she is going through a tough time right now?
TL;DR should I break up with my girlfriend of 1-year?


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