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I (21f) escaped from my toxic home tonight. Called the police on my parents for violence. (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
21-Jan-20 6:40 am
I (21f) escaped from my toxic home tonight. Called the police on my parents for violence.

I have a narcissistic mother and a dad who doesn't care much.
I don't even know where to start. Maybe check out my other posts too? I'm so distraught.
It's been a toxic home for years now. My dad has hit me before. Once they blocked the door when I wanted to flee. I somehow managed but my mom got hold of my shirt and it ripped. So I ran out barefeet. But I had to come back since I had no place to go. That was like 2 years ago.
I was being emotionally abused by my mom everyday. Need a good reason to leave the house. Can't visit friend's homes. I have a curfew of like 7pm, anything later needs a very good excuse. Whenever I'm out I get interrogated about who I'm with where I'm at etc. Everytime I'm done with work and text my mom I'll be out with friends she tells me to come the **** home. I still go out. But it's ****ing stressful. Whenever i get home she looks at me like I killed someone.
They take half my pay check and decide when I take my vacation. They force me to go with them even though I'm old enough to go away with friends. I can't even control my holidays.
I have no control of my life whatsoever.
I have talked to my mom about it lots. And I mean lots. We've sat down and talked calmly. We've screamed at each other. There's no way she understands me. Or wants to understand me.
Today I texted her how unhappy I am and that I'm suicidal because of the way things are. She completely ignored my text and hours later she texted me "come home we have guests" around 5 when I'm done with work.
I didnt go home. I didn't care for the guests. She bombarded me with text messages and calls about how embarrassed she is bc I'm not there. That I'm such a disgrace. This whole thing bc I wasnt home by 6 pm still. So she didn't care at all about my text telling her I was ****ing suicidal.
Tonight we argued once again. "You don't respect me" she yelled and I yelled the same thing back. Yelled how ****ung trapped I felt at almost 22. Nobody gave a ****. She kept yelling. I kept yelling. Dad told us both to shut up. We didn't. Then he decided to attack me. He hit me but my mom got in the way so he couldn't hit me much. My brother helped too.
While he was attacking me I threatened him with the police and my dad went ****ing berzerk. Wanted to attack me worse. I was screaming for help in my own home. Somehow in this mess I managed to call the police. Everyone was yelling so I had to scream into my phone my name and address.
So the police came. Mom went crazy about me being such a horrible person for doing this to them. How dare I try to protect myself with the help of police. Even when the police was here she was yelling at me "Tell them it's nothing. Tell them to go away. How dare you. You ****ing disgrace. I'm going to tell everybody about this. I'm telling your cousins and aunts and uncles. They'll know what kind of piece of **** you are."
It was all in their native language. The police didn't understand her. I live in Europe and they are immigrants. The police couldn't understand anything she was saying. Meanwhile two officers were talking to my dad and my dad was accusing me of wanting my freedom?! He told them "She wants freedom, that's what she wants" as if it's a nasty disgusting thing? Excuse me wtf? I bet those officers were ****ing confused.
Women don't really have rights in their culture. That's what that was about I guess.
The police asked me if I wanted to leave or stay. I said I wanted to leave since things would definitely not get better if I stayed after calling the police on them. I packed the bare minimum (laptop, clothes, few school books, passport) and was escorted out by the police. They took me to a friend's house.
On our way they said it's hard for them when it's about cultural things, since they can't do much about that. I told them I understood that. They were so nice to me. They're going to check on me on Thursday. I'm planning on getting the rest of my stuff from home then with their help. I don't even want to call that my home. I was so ****ing depressed. I hated it there.
My dad yelled he didn't want to have me back ever. I guess I'm disowned now?
I'm at a friend's house for tonight. I can't stay here though. I hit up a women's shelter and they told me to call tomorrow. Maybe they'll take me in until I find a flat. But at that place a doctor would excuse me from work for two weeks. I don't want to miss out on work. Also it's very secretive. The place is a secret. Can't tell my friends or bf where I am. They take my phone away and give me a prepaid one where the can check if I give away the adress i guess? I mean, I understand. But it seems so ****ing stressful right now. Everything is too much right now.
I have a part-time job. But i work next to my parent's place. They're probably going to terrorize me at my work place. I don't know.
It's such a messy situation and I need to figure out how to move on from this. Find a place to stay. Keep up with my school work. Keep up with my actual work.
It's scary. I just want peace. For once in my life.
Tl;dr Dad attacked me (once again) tonight and I called the police on my parents. I was escorted out. Parents hate me for this. Am at a friend's house and have no clue how to move on.


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