Husband (M39) escalated to throwing and pushing me (F41) - did I do what’s right?

This is my first real post to Dating.mobi but I’ve read for a long time. I think people will be supportive but lots of people in my life aren’t so I’m reaching out here.
My husband and I have been married for almost 10 years and have 2 little girls ages 7 and 8. He has been verbally abusive to me for years in many ways: raging and throwing things, making me feel wrong a lot, complaining about my friends and their kids. I’ve told him that if he ever did this to the kids, he’d need to leave. In Dec, he lost his temper with the kids and said awful things like he hates them, they’re awful children, he wishes he could give them away. I asked him to leave and get help. He did and came back after 2 months.
Then he escalated to pushing and groping me, throwing scissors at me, and screaming. This happened where one of our kids could hear it. I filed a police report and they arrested him. I also filed for a 30 day domestic restraining order and I don’t want him to come back. I keep trying to remember that I’m the only one who can avoid creating a cycle of violence here.
With all of this, I feel so broken. The kids don’t understand, our friends think he deserves another chance, and I miss him. I logically know that this is abuse, but my heart wants to just try again. Life is really hard with him gone and I’m a mess.
Thanks for your thoughts.
Edit: so many people are addressing my friends. I guess I want to clarify that they never saw any of this and just don’t have the experience to even know how to process it. I told very few people about what was happening. All that said, I know their advice is bad and likely can’t be my friends unless they understand the situation.
TLDR: husband has been verbally abuse, escalated to physical, was arrested. Is it the right thing to hold on and not allow him back?


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