How do you find a girl that shares similar values/belief/maturity?

I am 25 and back in college. I joined the military shortly after high school and ive done a lot and seen a lot of things. I have no problem communicating, being social, dressing well, or being in shape. Im alright in the looks as well.
But I just feel so much older and annoyed by everyone around me (boys and girls) even ones close to my age. I cant go out drinking at bars every other night like a LOT of them do, and I feel like a lot of people are not at the same stage in life as I am. The 20 somethings Ive tried talking to still wont work and live with their parents and want to be treated like princesses that get everything handed to them (boys and girls). And Ive tried the tinder thing and its been pretty horrible. Even without tinder people just want to keep being one upped with everything. Well you need a funnier pick up line than that, you need to take me on a better date than last week, you need to buy the more expensive alcohol this time, or whatever it is. One girl after the first time getting coffee told me (along these lines) "you need to make at least 80k, have a car and another for me, and..." listed a few things off. I couldnt stop but think "what are you bringing to the table?"
It doesnt help that I have "boring" hobbies. Does anyone have any advice? Sorry if this was against the rules, I read a lot of the frequently asked questions also and did not see it.
TLDR: How to find someone more mature with similar values.
Edit: My hobbies are BJJ/Muay thai, STEM, Starcraft, and reef tanks. Ive recently re found gardening and ive really enjoyed ice skating and gymnastics and marathon running in the past. I like to drink coffee by my fish tanks and take my dogs on walks. I have 2 ****-Poos.


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