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Fiancé [23F] called off wedding 10 days before with me [26M]. Didn’t break up but not sure how to pr (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
9-Mar-18 12:22 pm
Fiancé [23F] called off wedding 10 days before with me [26M]. Didn’t break up but not sure how to proceed from here?

As the title says my fiancé and I had a rough patch right before the wedding and had a talk and she called off the wedding. She had some reservations about how I haven’t been the most supportive and helpful around the house and as the wedding got closer it weighed down on her more and more. Originally when she called off the wedding she said she didn’t want to work on things and that we were done. The next day we talked about things and she was open to working things out and just postponing the wedding until she was more comfortable which I agreed was the best option.
We own a house and pets together as well as having all our bill, bank accounts, and cell phone plan together so if we did split up it would be a ton of things to take care of. Since the “breakup†last Wednesday night she went out with a friend over the weekend to bars and got pretty drunk Friday-Sunday. While she’s out I don’t bother her and I let her be with her friend and enjoy her time as I don’t want to pressure her or stress her out more. Then Saturday night she was out with her friend and so was I. I got home around 11:30 and went to bed after texting her and saying I hope she was having fun, I loved her and that if she needed me to just call. 1:45am comes around and she’s calling me more drunk then I had ever heard her and asked for a ride home and sounded extremely upset. I pick her up and on the way home she is just extremely drunk and stumbling on words. I ask what happened while she was out that made her want to come home and she said midway through the night she lost control and started crying at the bar. I ask why and she says because she though about me home alone while she was out and that she felt bad and missed me and wanted to come home to me. So I felt a little better about the situation. I get her home help her shower and change and into bed.
The next day she has a nasty hangover so I get her breakfast and help her out how I can. She thanks me again for the night before and we spend most of the day together. Cut to later in the day her friend is texting her and poof she’s getting ready and off to go drink all night again leaving me high and dry. I get upset and confront her and she brushes it off and says she just wants to go out and not worry about the situation. She goes to the bar I talk to her once or twice all day and then nothing and I go to bed as I have work in the morning. Monday she text me and is sending me snapchats and such all day and things seem to be better for the next day or two. So here I am today and I’m off all day due to the poor weather as is she and we spend the morning doing running around and such and things seem okay. We get home and she wants to read a little in bed by herself so I leave her for a few hours. When I go in to check and see how her book is and just see what’s up she just says she wants to be left alone today and not deal with anyone as she is emotionally drained. I respect her wishes make a bath up for her and let her be. The main problem I’m having with the situation is that she won’t give me any answers or anything about where the situation is going and anytime we bring up the conversation she just brushes it off and gets extremely flustered and stressed. She is like that with everyone she’s close to since the break up and won’t talk about it to anyone, not me, not her mother, not her maid of honor, no one but all day she is on her phone texting her best friend and friend she goes out with non stop. This is driving me insane and draining me not being able to get a conversation out of her while she talks to her friends all day. I don’t know what to do or how to proceed. I’ve been letting her be and doing what needs to be done to help her through this process but don’t want to press the subject and push her further away but I need something. I’m just looking to get some advice and maybe some female directions on how to proceed and get things to work out and back on track?!
a\ *bolded tl;dr. Fiancé called off wedding 10 days before. We live together and are trying to work things out but need a little direction on where to go from here?
Update: I got home from work today and said hello and asked how her day was as normal. We got into a talk again about how she hasn’t really told me where we stand or what we are right now. She got upset and said that as of now we are workin on things and that she isn’t sure we can work these things out and that it will take a lot for me to fix the mistakes I’ve made and the let downs I’ve put on her for a year now in her words. Things got a little out of hand and I got upset as did she and we both were beyond stressed. She suggested a 2 month “trial†or last chance kind of situation and we can take it day by day. I agreed as long as she can give it a positive shot and really be into it and give me time with her, a real positive attitude and stay faithful to me. She said she’s not going to be happy and cheerful non stop but she can try and work on it as a last effort to save the relationship. We talked a little more and things got a little out of hand and we agreed that one of us should spend the night somewhere else as to not make things more tense so I left for the night to stay with my parents and let things decompress until tomorrow when we can be more calm and have another hopefully helpful conversation.


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