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[update] I [22F] just found out my late half-sister [40F] is still alive (by Sparky)
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[update] I [22F] just found out my late half-sister [40F] is still alive
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My sister, who I was told passed after a battle with cancer, added me on social media. After going through her profile it was clear that it was definitely her. You guys encouraged me to talk to her to find out what happened. It took me a bit to come up with the will to do so, but I finally did.
I sent her a very short but polite message saying that I was glad that she seemed to be doing well but I was very confused because I had been told she died.
Apparently, our father told her that I was a huge source of negativity and that it was unhealthy for her to have me in her life while she was going through the cancer. She told me she didn't believe that, but that he offered to pay for her treatments and such in full if she just cut contact with me forever, and they came to the conclusion together that it would be better for me if I thought she was just dead. She told me that she was reaching out now because he had given her permission to as he felt I was in a better place now.
I was pretty furious when I read that, especially since I had been helping her out financially and in pretty significant amounts. I know how stressful medical bills and how much of a relief it would be if someone offered to completely take care of mine, but at the same time I hate that our relationship had a price tag. We grew pretty close, at least I thought so, even commiserating about how awful that man had made our lives but he was able to just swoop in so easily and manipulate us again.
I didn't know what to say at first so I let myself cool down, talked about it with my partner, and then ultimately decided to let her know that I appreciated her telling me the truth and that I'm glad she's well but that I'd prefer if we didn't talk much going forward as I was really hurt by what she did and that I didn't want any avenue for our father to have any contact much less control over my life.
Tl;dr ****ty father offered to take care of her financially if she faked her death with me to cut contact. He changed his mind and gave her permission to talk to me again, but I decided I'm better off without her in my life anyway.
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My sister, who I was told passed after a battle with cancer, added me on social media. After going through her profile it was clear that it was definitely her. You guys encouraged me to talk to her to find out what happened. It took me a bit to come up with the will to do so, but I finally did.
I sent her a very short but polite message saying that I was glad that she seemed to be doing well but I was very confused because I had been told she died.
Apparently, our father told her that I was a huge source of negativity and that it was unhealthy for her to have me in her life while she was going through the cancer. She told me she didn't believe that, but that he offered to pay for her treatments and such in full if she just cut contact with me forever, and they came to the conclusion together that it would be better for me if I thought she was just dead. She told me that she was reaching out now because he had given her permission to as he felt I was in a better place now.
I was pretty furious when I read that, especially since I had been helping her out financially and in pretty significant amounts. I know how stressful medical bills and how much of a relief it would be if someone offered to completely take care of mine, but at the same time I hate that our relationship had a price tag. We grew pretty close, at least I thought so, even commiserating about how awful that man had made our lives but he was able to just swoop in so easily and manipulate us again.
I didn't know what to say at first so I let myself cool down, talked about it with my partner, and then ultimately decided to let her know that I appreciated her telling me the truth and that I'm glad she's well but that I'd prefer if we didn't talk much going forward as I was really hurt by what she did and that I didn't want any avenue for our father to have any contact much less control over my life.
Tl;dr ****ty father offered to take care of her financially if she faked her death with me to cut contact. He changed his mind and gave her permission to talk to me again, but I decided I'm better off without her in my life anyway.
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