My [31F] husband [32M) just died and my mother [50s] won't leave me alone.

My husband and I were together for over a year after being together for 15 years. I am obviously very upset but she keeps bothering me.
I'm only really upset about her bothering me because when she had her breakdown I was 20 and I let her have it. Now she's yelling at me and saying I should be doing better, which upsets because dude, I helped her through this and obviously I'm not doing anything but this time I'm still trying.
She's really mad at me for not getting dressed or showered and it's only been 4 days since he died. What am I supposed to do?

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tl;dr: Husband died very suddenly and it's only been four days... my mother had the same happen to her and she's been very cavalier as though I should just get up.


Source.

Hard to believe you're on an internet forum 4 days after your husband died....

The first sentence throws me off. But anyway, the mom needs to take a step back. If my husband died you wouldn't see me for 4 months, little on 4 days. Take your time to grieve. It's your right.