[Update] My [22/M] best friend of 16 years [22/F] was diagnosed with cancer and only has two years left to live. Is it selfish to tell her that I love her?

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationshi...was_diagnosed/

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Edit: Oh my god, this update received so much more attention than I expected. And I got gold for the first time. Thank you kind stranger who gave me that. I will continue to read all your guy's replies. I'll also make sure my girlfriend reads all your replies too, thank you so much!

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I decided to tell her my feelings. I came into the conversation fully expecting her to not reciprocate them back.
I said to her that I loved her. I told her I wanted to be with her for the rest of her life. I said she made me happy in a way no one else could. I made it clear I would support/help her no matter what her response was.
She kissed me and I teared up. She told me she also had these feelings for me. She said I love you to me. My heart melted. It was the most wonderful thing I’ve ever heard in my life. She explained how she wanted to tell me but thought I wouldn’t want to be with someone who was going to die in a few years. She said I was the only person in the world that she wanted to spend with in her last moments of life. We cried and comforted each other. I felt a true emotional connection to her.
She made me promise that I wouldn’t obsess over her death. I promised her that I would still be able to find love even after she dies. She said the most important thing in her life was my happiness and well being. I told her I wanted to make the last years of her life the best years of her life.
We’ve been going on dates everyday ever since I told her my feelings. I’ve never had so much fun in my life before. I love her with all my heart. I’m so happy to call her my girlfriend and she’s ecstatic to call me her boyfriend.
I know our relationship has a defined ending. I don’t mind. I’m cherishing all the moments I have with her. I started a journal and I’ve been writing in it daily. I want to remember all the happy times we had together.
Thank you everyone for your advice. I could not have asked for a better outcome :)

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tl;dr: I told her my feelings. She reciprocated them back. She told me there wasn’t any other person in the world she’d rather spend the rest of her life with. We’re girlfriend and boyfriend now. I realize our relationship has a definite end but I don’t mind. I’m enjoying every happy moment we have together and she is too.


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No it's not selfish to tell her that you love her