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Update: I (23f) was dumped by my friend group after breaking things off with an abusive ex and am ha (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
16-Nov-17 8:51 am
Update: I (23f) was dumped by my friend group after breaking things off with an abusive ex and am having trouble moving on.

It's been a month since my initial post, and let me just say y'all, I'm doing good.
I took the advice of this forum and deleted all of my old 'friends' on social media. Some noticed, some didn't. One girl messaged me asking if she had done 'anything wrong'--with all the politeness of my Southern upbringing, I diverted her question as to not discuss my abuse and personal life over frickin' Instagram message (of course, this was on Instagram, because that's all that matters to these people). Speaking of, I'm sure all of my old friends noticed me cutting them out online, because social media means everything to them. I still notice a few of them watch all of my Instagram stories almost right after I post them, which makes me pity that they missed out on an amazing person they probably think of often: me. Not seeing my old friends antics online allowed me to clear my head and just be less obsessed with missing them and my own loneliness. It was all fake anyway, carefully posed pictures of boring, mean, cold lives. I know that, because that used to be me.
I've learned to enjoy my own company this month, as well as joined a local D'n'D group as per the recommendations y'all. Nerdy as hell, not at all Instagram chic, but a total ****ing blast and the people are great. I've gone out dancing with them once (absolutely hilarious), and look forward to getting to know them more.
As for my abusive ex, I haven't heard anything about him other than seeing online that he's still partying and being his same old **** self. I went ahead and unfollowed the person who posted that video of him, too. I wrote a poem about how that video made me feel, and wouldn't you know yall, the place I submitted it to wanted to publish it. I have a mini book coming out next year, of poems I wrote when feeling absolutely alone. Seeing that video also inspired me to flush the rest of the drugs left in my house.
Thank you everyone for helping me through the darkness. The most important advice I received was that my friend group picked my ex because he was like them: empty, mean, and on the road to destruction.
I'm only a month in, but I feel like it's been a year. And I owe it to you guys. To other women getting out of abusive situations, you are a badass queen and not everyone will know how to handle your newfound strength. Keep shining.
tl;dr: Deleted old friends online, cleared my head, went sober-ish, became a half-elf druid, have a book coming out.


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