I (25F) thought I was living a perfect life with my boyfriend (27M) of 5+ years. Turns out he committed a felony 1.5yrs ago, and just got caught.

So, I met my boyfriend about 5.5 years ago, in Spring 2012, at a party. The moment we met it was an instant connection, and we’ve been practically inseparable ever since.
Through all the ups and downs of life that you experience navigating your early and mid 20s, we had each other’s back. Friends told us we were “couple goals†and I genuinely enjoyed every moment we spent together, we rarely fought, even in stressful situations (despite protection, I got pregnant ~1yr into our relationship - an abortion ensued, which was obviously emotional, but we got through it).
We moved in together in Spring 2015, around the three-year mark. We adopted a cat. Went on vacations. Started good jobs in complimentary fields.
In Spring 2016, I got into an accident and asked my boyfriend if I could borrow some money to help pay off the ensuing bills. He readily gave me the money, and I paid him back within four months. I assumed the money came from his savings.
As it turns out, my handsome, hilarious, intelligent boyfriend was not as good at saving money as I had been led to believe. He didn’t take the money out of his savings, he took it from his work.
When he found out how easy it was, he kept taking more and more money.
Today, he got caught, fired, and they’re considering taking legal action against him - I imagine that they will, he took a felony-quantity amount of money.
I had no idea that this was going on. I genuinely believed that he had savings. He frequently talked about how much he had saved - we were getting close to a house downpayment (or so I thought).
Dating.mobi, I’m beyond shook. I feel shattered, broken. I feel lied to, and just sick that he did this, that he was capable of doing this. I’m disgusted and heartbroken and so so so sad. I feel humiliated. I have no idea how to tell people what happened. I’m obviously going to break up with him, but I just feel so sick and sad. I don’t know what to do, beyond the obvious - break-up, move out (and probably back in with my parents), but thinking about all the things that I need to do gets me so overwhelmed.
Yesterday, I thought I had a perfect life. We both had the day off and had a great day at IKEA. Now it turns out that everything in our relationship over the last year was built on lies. I need to leave our beautiful apartment, leave this relationship, leave the life I thought I had.
I think I’m in shock. This all just happened over the last three hours. I don’t know what to do. I’m just devastated.
Does anyone have any advice? Wisdom? Words of comfort? I feel like I’m drowning.
** tl;dr - turns out my “perfect†boyfriend was not so perfect. His “savings†account was actually just stealing money from his work. I had no idea this was going on, and he just got caught. I have no idea what to do, and I’m very overwhelmed.**


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This is a real hard situation to give advice towards a solution. First and foremost...do you love him enough to stand by him? Everyone makes mistakes AND bad choices. You both will suffer. Him by the verdict of a court, and you by association. Ask yourself this question...would he stand by you? I wish I could tell you what to do, unfortunately, after you think about what I have just said, you will be able to make a decision. Either way you go...it will not be easy.