I (26F) have been married to (23F) for a little under 3 years now. Her parents (50sMF) hid this from the rest of the family, and wants another wedding ceremony to cover their tracks. They also want me to pretend to be a man.

Sorry about the title long enough to have "by Fall Out Boy" tacked to the end.
Me and my wife Mandy have been dating all the way through high school and college. Her parents were always unhappy about us being friends, let alone being in a relationship, but for the most part they seemed to not take our relationship seriously so we both didn't pay them any mind. Eventually I proposed to Mandy and she said yes, so we decided to break the happy news to her parents, only for them to laugh in our faces and tell Mandy that she didn't need to "waste time fooling around with lesbians" because once she graduated college they were just going to immediately hook her up with a family friend's son to get married. I said some real colorful words to them that day, and we left after Mandy told them that unless they came to terms with her relationship, she didn't want them in her life. They continued sending her emails and text messages belittling her sexuality and insisting that she was just confused.
A little while later we got married. All our friends were there, as well as a local elderly couple that had "adopted" us (since I'm an orphan and Mandy wasn't talking to her parents, we started hanging out at our childless neighbors' place helping with chores and became pretty close). We had good food and good entertainment, and it was seriously awesome. Mandy sent our wedding pictures to her parents, saying no matter what they thought of her lifestyle, she was happy. We both were.
Soon after that her parents finally seemed to be coming around. They called one day, apologizing like crazy, saying all that mattered to them was that Mandy was happy. We cautiously accepted them back into our lives. They were pleasant enough the few times we talked on the phone, and started almost immediately showering us both with gifts and greeting cards. I thought it was great; Mandy thought something was up.
And as usual, Mandy was right. When we paid them a visit a good year later, they seemed more anxious and nervous than I'd ever remembered them. It took Mandy telling them to spit it out multiple times before they finally admitted that they had been keeping our marriage a secret to their entire extended family. It turns out that they were so ashamed that we pretty much eloped and had a same sex marriage, that when family members showed up with our wedding pictures they found on Facebook they had been telling everyone that we were just at a mutual friend's bridal shower and were "pretending" to be brides. At the same time, they knew that they couldn't keep it a secret forever, so they had been telling their family that Mandy was seeing a "very nice boy" and might be getting married in a couple years or so. It wasn't my finest moment, but I blew up. I couldn't imagine that anyone could disrespect their own child's sexuality and life decisions to this degree. I told them exactly what was on my mind, while Mandy backed me up and pretty much egged me on. All her parents could say was "calm down" and "think about our feelings!" which honestly made me angrier.
Eventually when everyone cooled down, I asked them what exactly their plan was now that everything was out in the open. And you guys... Not only did they actually want to have another wedding ceremony with the family invited to corroborate their fake timeline, they wanted me to dress up as a man. I almost choked on my drink. I was just like "are you guys serious?!" and all they could say was "well, our family is very conservative, and it's just not fair for them to have a lesbian wedding forced onto them." Mandy asked them what they were gonna do once the extended family inevitably found out that I was a woman, and her parents basically told us that we didn't ever have to interact with the rest of the family again-- just invite them one time to this fake straight wedding to trick them into believing their story, so that they could save face.
Boy I was ready to get in another yelling match with these people but thankfully Mandy is pretty much the buddha incarnate and deescalated the situation before we went home. She doesn't seem to be too fazed about her parents' elaborate ruse, probably because she says this isn't the first time they've lied to the rest of the family to cover their *****. She even thinks another wedding might be fun, especially because her parents are offering to pay for the entire thing. However she isn't comfortable pretending to be straight, and says we can just show up as two women in love with each other and if the rest of the family doesn't like what they see they can **** right back off. Personally I just don't feel comfortable with the whole concept of this fake wedding. I am by all means unmistakably a woman-- nothing about me is masculine, not even androgynous, and there is really no way in hell I could ever look like a man unless Mandy's parents are planning to hire an entire Hollywood makeup crew, a voice coach, and a plastic surgeon. Not to mention Mandy has always been completely disinterested in men, both physically and romantically. I'm not about to pretend I'm something I'm not just to please a bunch of people I've never met.
The problem? It's been about a year or so and Mandy's parents are still trying to push the fake marriage on us. Every time we talk to them, we tell them we're not gonna do it and they say they understand. But the next time we talk to them, it's like they have no recollection of the previous conversation. Part of me feels like they're doing this on purpose just to get us to say "all right all right, we'll do you stupid ****ing wedding." My question is, should we just do what they want and get it over with? I'm really loath going through with it, but if that's the best and only option I guess I have no choice. Or Is there some kind of compromise that we can come to? Better yet... Is it appropriate to just tell Mandy's parents to **** off?

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tl;dr: wife's parents are serious homophobes, and now that we're married they've lied to the entire family saying I'm a man and we're only dating, and we'll be getting married "for real" later on. they want me to dress up as a man and have a "fake wedding" where only the family is invited, so that they'll be fooled into thinking we're in a straight relationship.


Source.

Personally, I don't believe this....but y'all do y'all...

And soooooo much drama

I'd tell them to fuk off and leave it at that. Who cares what her family wants, yall are grown adults. Her parents have no right to force you to do something you don't want to do, especially if it involves being someone you're not.