Perhaps " spying " isn't an apt term but what I mean is when parents check their teenagers personal belongings without their knowledge especially computers, mobile phones & diaries ...

When parents should spy ?

When parents should NOT spy ?


Any input is appreciated ..


Oooppssss victims of " spying " can share their stories too :)

Well the only time i would spy on any of my 3 teenagers is when i suspect them doing something that might harm them im pretty lucky my kids and i have a very open relationship they know that they can come to me about anything and we talk about everything so i feel pretty blessed :)

@ Estarley.. Glad to hear , you have an awesome relationship with your teenagers ! It's very important that the line of communication between parents and teen agers are open anytime :) .. You such a blessed mom !

@Rainbowbutterfly: thank you i am pretty blessed i have 3 wonderful teenagers that dont drink or do drugs they dont like it and they know they can come to me their friends even come to me they all call me the cool mom lol i love it :)

@Estarley77: Wow ! That's amazing .. 2 thumbs up for that !

My child will soon to be a teenager & I'm starting reading & collecting thoughts from other parents :) ..

Thanks for sharing :)

Well....i'd say it wholly depends on the relationship u got with yo teenager. At one point a parent must snoop,one cant help themselves. But,how u deal with what u've found out,is the most important of all.

@Rainbowbutterfly: just make sure your open and honest with your child and be there as a friend too not just a parent :) and your very welcome :)

I have a teenage girl living with from a previous partner. I'm not her father but she wants me 2 be, she cant get along with her mum she acts like a child and the father does drugs around her so she tracked me down and asked with she could live with me. After talking 2 her parents they were glad 2 get rid of her but now they regret it no more money coming in which is really her money the way I see it. I get the money but I opened a bank account 4 her and put it in there 4 when she is 18 its her's. I have not used any of it I support her completely on my wage. I have a good relationship with her and if she needs 2 talk 2 me she can but if she needs 2 take about girl stuff I have some good friends women who she feels happy around and can talk 2 them freely. I trust her completely nothing 2 hide same with her.

@ baybeh.. Thank you for the input. It's true that it's how you deal/ explain to the teenager whenever there is something you found out that isn't good . Yelling at him/ her right away will never solve the issue , instead talk to her/ him and give her/ him chance to explain ....

@ Estarley .. I have a very good relationship with my child but I always heard that " teen age " life is the most difficult stage which is true ... I'll take your advice by heart and it's nice that I have a chance to talk on you here :)!

Rainbowbutterfly i'm more of a friend 2 her but when she has done something wrong i'm like a parent though. But she is a very good girl and smart but that has come through hard work and I help her as much as I can. There is nothing I would not do 4 her. Its strange because I cant have kids which I found out when I was 30 but having her around has given me like a second chance which i'm grateful. I know she is not mine and same with her but everyone in the town knows it 2 but they all say she is very happy and she owes it all 2 u and she speaks very highly of me alot like I do about her. So good luck with yours. I hope it all goes smoothly