Husband confessed he?s never been physically attracted to me.

Husband confessed he?s never been physically attracted to me.
I (32F) and my husband (40M) have been together for just over 4 years, married for 2 and have a baby under 1 year old. The other night, on our anniversary, I asked him why we are not intimate anymore. It wasn?t the first time I asked this. When I got pregnant he stopped being intimate completely (stating that he doesn?t want to ?hurt the baby?/cause a miscarriage as we?ve been through that before). I didn?t protest during pregnancy because I was busy anyway (working full-time, finishing my medical degree, completing my clinical placements and doing an online course for him for a career change - all at the same time, while he was working 8h shifts in a hospitality job). I gave birth over 7 months ago and we only had sex 2 or 3 times. Every time I asked him about his lack of interest, he would say that he?s not happy about the way he looks (he put on around 10kg while I was pregnant) but other than a bit of belly fat he looks just the same and I still find him attractive. Anyway, on our anniversary I pressed the matter as we also had our son at daycare for 2-3 hours and I thought he might want to take advantage of that time. Eventually he told me that from the beginning he didn?t find me as physically attractive as he imagined by looking at my social media photos and he realised the first time we were intimate (3 months into the relationship) that I didn?t have the type of body he would ?go crazy for and want to have sex with every day?, but he picked me and married me because I was marriage material and he wouldn?t have been embarrassed to present me to his family.
For context, the photos he?s referring to - I was 25yo in them, in a relationship with a guy who was providing for me, I didn?t have to work (I still did part-time to have some financial independence), I was sleeping 8-10hours/night, I was having time to exercise every day, money to get massages and spa and make-up and clothes etc. I believe I still look good, I lost all the pregnancy weight and I?m exercising every day while the baby is in the bouncer/playing on the mat/sleeping, I do power walks around the area where we live, I watch my food and calories, I still try to do my hair and makeup when I leave the house even for a coffee or groceries. Sure, I don?t walk around the house in the sexiest clothes because I?m looking after a baby and the house, but I?m still in gym leggings and tops. I look after myself as much as I possibly can given that I?ve also returned to work and I?ve supported this household for the past 5 months (remember the course I was doing for him to change careers? He quit his hospitality job and started one in this new field where he?s only paid on a commission base, but that hasn?t happened yet).
I am incredibly hurt by what he told me. I feel like my self esteem has gone down so much. He didn?t help with the baby at all until the last couple of months when I returned to work and he had to look after him for 8 hours 2-3 days a week. He?s helped around the house by cooking and doing laundry and cleaning since I gave birth. But he?s also not contributed financially during the last 4-5 months (I?m talking not even $1). He brought up his new job saying that he doesn?t feel supported by me, but how am I meant to support something that hasn?t even provided for baby nappies? Not $1, I?m not exaggerating. I haven?t talked to him since this conversation 2 days ago and to be honest, I don?t feel like talking to him anytime soon. I didn?t know his real thoughts and feelings when I married him. I honestly thought he loved me as much as I love him and was attracted to me. He kept saying that it?s a good thing because he had ?so many options? but he picked me because he could have never trusted those ?options? to have a family with. I don?t know what I?m expecting from posting this.. I?m just releasing all my frustration and sadness here. And yes, I?ll continue to work on myself to be the best that I can be, maybe even better than those photos he keeps bringing up. But I have this sad feeling that I might not want him anymore once I get to that point.
What are you all thinking? Is my reaction an exaggeration?
TL;DR; : My (32 F) husband (40 M) has confessed on our 2nd anniversary that?s he?s never been physically attracted to me because he imagined my body to be looking differently under the clothes (based on my social media photos). He still asked me to marry him and have kids with him because he is not embarrassed with me around his family (like he would have been with ?so many other options? he had that he felt he could have had sex with them every day) and trusted me to have a family with. He?s also not contributed financially for the last 4-5 months since he quit his old job and started a new career that hasn?t brought any money in. I?m incredibly hurt and feel lied to and used. For context, I do look after myself, I?ve lost all the pregnancy weight, I wear makeup, I do my hair, I exercise daily, I watch my food. I just don?t have the money and time to have someone do this for me at a salon/spa and I do it at home. I also look after our baby every day 24/7 except for the days I go to work (8h 2-3 shifts/week)..


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