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My cousin (32M) with Down syndrome is obsessed with me (36F) and my accident. Should I tell his pare (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
23-Oct-24 5:35 am
My cousin (32M) with Down syndrome is obsessed with me (36F) and my accident. Should I tell his parents?

I (36F) recently started talking more to my distant cousin (32M) who has Down syndrome, having found out from his mom that he follows my posts on social media and draws inspiration from them. I suffered an accident a few years ago that left me disabled and I post about life as a differently abled person. I gave my cousin my phone number hoping that chatting will be a good experience for the both of us.
He writes to me daily quite disturbing messages: he says he's mourning constantly the friends I lost in the crash, that he needs me, he wants me to save him, he wants to avenge me, he misses me, he wants to live with me etc. I talked to him and to his mom and he seems to be very well taken care of. I thought he might be abused, but both his parents are really caring and take him on walks, take him to school, he looks very well, and there is no sign of anything being off in the family. He seems to have developed an obsession for me and my accident. If I don't answer him asap, he tells me he's scared for my life and he feels worried sick.
Please note he barely knows me, we only met once personally and we've never been close. Most of his messages are quite dark, in that he's fixated on my injuries, asks me about the accident, and when I switch the topic, he goes back to it even more intensely. If I say I'm okay now, he says he's not okay and can't forget what happened to me. Frankly, I think he might feel socially isolated and disconnected and I've become some sort of refuge for him. But everything is just very intense and I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I also can't "save" him or be his everything. I really need advice on how to proceed further. I've tried talking about other things, asking him about himself, his hobbies, his friends, nothing works. I've asked him if he sees a therapist, he said he wants to be my therapist. I'm considering talking to his parents at his point. I'm worried about his mental health and I feel the relationship with me is doing him more harm than good? Should I tell his parents?
TL;DR: My cousin (32M) with down syndrome is obsessed with me (36F) and my accident. We've only started talking a few months ago. I don't know how to manage the relationship anymore. Should I tell his parents?


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