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Should I reject a 4-year full ride scholarship to keep from living 8 hours apart from my boyfriend? (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
12-Oct-24 4:30 pm
Should I reject a 4-year full ride scholarship to keep from living 8 hours apart from my boyfriend?

I, 17F, have been in an amazing relationship with my boyfriend, 19F, for 7 months. We met exactly 7 months ago and he's courted me since the first day we met. As dumb as it sounds, I genuinely think he's the one. He's my first relationship, my first love, my first everything. I have always been an academic-oriented person, dedicating all my highschool years to either salutatorian or valedictorian, and the dream university abroad I have been eyeing has finally graced me with the full-ride scholarship that I've been dreaming of. It covers all tuition fees and is the most well-known prestigious university in that country abroad.
I have never imagined ever rejecting my dream university for the sole reason that I've always told myself: if I ever get into a relationship before I leave the country, he must be supportive of my goals despite the long distance apart. That is, until he mentioned a week ago that he wouldn't be able to stand me being 8 hours away in a different country. He had told me, clearly upset at even just the notion of it, "Please try your best to go to university here, whatever you do. I'll help you find a scholarship here, I'll use my connections ? as long as you're a ride away, not a plane away."
Now, I'm conflicted. I still have time to apply for universities here, which I will do for his sake and the miracle that I do get another full-ride offer, but I will always be mourning the fact I could've been at my dream university. That I could've been at the place I've upheld with pride; and most of all, that the scholarship would've been the best thing that ever happened to my family's financial situation. Yet again, I'd rather break my own heart than break his. I don't want to do long-distance either ? I want to see him every day and I genuinely think he's the love of my life ? so I'm going to try my somewhat best in staying here. Emphasis on somewhat.
The worst part is if I told him the news that I accepted the scholarship, he'd be distraught but accept my decision nonetheless. The idea of even upsetting him like that is heartbreaking. I'm torn. Call it dumb young love, but we're crazy for each other. Our chemistry has been perfect since day 1 and he prioritizes communication most of all. What should I do?
TL;DR, I'm torn between accepting a 4-year scholarship at my dream university abroad but living 8 hours apart from my boyfriend ? and applying for some random colleges here instead but at least I'm only a car ride away.


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