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My [27f] husband [29m] of 5 months holds me firmly when I express something I don?t like and I find (by Sparky)
(29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
My [27f] husband [29m] of 5 months holds me firmly when I express something I don?t like and I find it infuriating.
My husband has a tendency to hold me firmly when I express that I don?t like something that he does. I think it?s his attempt of communicating that he?s sorry and willing to hear me out but it feels AWFUL and I hate it.
It happened a few days ago and it led to a really awkward situation. i was doing the dishes after dinner. I was already irritated because the day had been kinda frustrating at work and I just wanted it to be over and go to sleep.
I told him in a really cranky way to put the cheese/ham containers back in the fridge because he has a tendency to forget them once he uses.
He held me very suddenly and said he?d keep it mind but I found that contact incredibly irritating in the moment and moved my shoulder to get him off me, and he seemed hurt after. I did apologize later but I didn?t bring up that I?m irritated by his response to my criticism.
I?m not sure how to bring this up in a way that doesn?t make it worse. I get REALLY irritated when he does that but there?s also the fact that it?s his way of acknowledging what I?m saying so it?s not bad but I still hate it. How to word ALL of this?
tl;dr: Husband has a tendency to hold me very suddenly and firmly when i express a grievance about his behavior and I HATE it. How to tell him without hurting him?
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My husband has a tendency to hold me firmly when I express that I don?t like something that he does. I think it?s his attempt of communicating that he?s sorry and willing to hear me out but it feels AWFUL and I hate it.
It happened a few days ago and it led to a really awkward situation. i was doing the dishes after dinner. I was already irritated because the day had been kinda frustrating at work and I just wanted it to be over and go to sleep.
I told him in a really cranky way to put the cheese/ham containers back in the fridge because he has a tendency to forget them once he uses.
He held me very suddenly and said he?d keep it mind but I found that contact incredibly irritating in the moment and moved my shoulder to get him off me, and he seemed hurt after. I did apologize later but I didn?t bring up that I?m irritated by his response to my criticism.
I?m not sure how to bring this up in a way that doesn?t make it worse. I get REALLY irritated when he does that but there?s also the fact that it?s his way of acknowledging what I?m saying so it?s not bad but I still hate it. How to word ALL of this?
tl;dr: Husband has a tendency to hold me very suddenly and firmly when i express a grievance about his behavior and I HATE it. How to tell him without hurting him?
Source.
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