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I (29F) feel really insecure about my gift for my boyfriend's (33M) parents (70s M and F). Am I over (by Sparky)
I (29F) feel really insecure about my gift for my boyfriend's (33M) parents (70s M and F). Am I overreacting?
Hey all, maybe I'm being weird about this but I could really use some perspective here.
I met my current boyfriend, Gerard, at a bar last summer and we've been together ever since. It sounds really corny but I hit the jackpot with this man. He's sweet, funny, kind, caring, driven and principled. Every day, he makes me feel so loved and appreciated, whether it's by sending me random texts asking me if I know how sexy I am or surprising me with takeout from my favorite restaurant. I know, really corny but I can't stress enough just how special Gerard is to me.
A couple of months into the relationship, Gerard told me he wanted to introduce his parents to me. I was excited and said yes. That's when I learned that he's from old money. The kind where the trust fund will not run out for two to three generations. That being said, he has a successful career of his own and makes his own money. He didn't want to tell me about his financial status because he had been burned a few times in the past by past relationships. Which is understandable.
While I don't make near as much money as he does, I am financially comfortable.
I was a little unsure but he reassured me that his parents wanted to meet me and that if they gave me any blowback, he'd have my back. I agreed and we met at a nice restaurant.
His parents (Rose and Nick) won me over. They made me feel welcomed and asked me all sorts of questions about my hobbies, life and everything in particular. When we parted, I told his parents that I hoped they were proud of Gerard because of how wonderful he turned out to be. They said that they were and they told Gerard to not lose me.
Ever since then, Rose and Nick always ask how I am and how my latest sewing projects are going.
Rose and Nick's 40th wedding anniversary is on February 1st. Because Rose mentioned how much she likes the photos of my projects, I decided to make them one. I usually make my own gifts. The reason for this is because I feel it's more meaningful. For his birthday last month, I made Gerard a needlepoint of Aragorn's standard from The Lord of the Rings. He adored it and has it proudly hanging in his office.
Gerard knows I'm making this quilt for Nick and Rose and helped me pick the fabric. One of my friends has a fabric printer so I got copies of pictures to make panels for the quilt. Things like their engagement photo, their wedding photo, Gerard's baptism, pictures of vacations, etc.
It's coming along nicely.
This morning, Gerard asked me if I was willing to help him pick out a purse for Rose (her birthday is in a couple of weeks). Imagine my surprise when I saw it was a Louis Vuitton purse. I guess that's when it really sank in for me just how much money this family has. I don't know why, but it made me feel really inadequate. Almost like I don't measure up. At once, I got unsure about my own gift.
I'm not sure what to make of my feelings or even if I should be having these feelings at all. Should I bring it up to Gerard? Or should I just keep my mouth shut? Am I being a gold digger?
TLDR: I'm feeling insecure about my gift to my rich boyfriend's parents. What should I do?
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Hey all, maybe I'm being weird about this but I could really use some perspective here.
I met my current boyfriend, Gerard, at a bar last summer and we've been together ever since. It sounds really corny but I hit the jackpot with this man. He's sweet, funny, kind, caring, driven and principled. Every day, he makes me feel so loved and appreciated, whether it's by sending me random texts asking me if I know how sexy I am or surprising me with takeout from my favorite restaurant. I know, really corny but I can't stress enough just how special Gerard is to me.
A couple of months into the relationship, Gerard told me he wanted to introduce his parents to me. I was excited and said yes. That's when I learned that he's from old money. The kind where the trust fund will not run out for two to three generations. That being said, he has a successful career of his own and makes his own money. He didn't want to tell me about his financial status because he had been burned a few times in the past by past relationships. Which is understandable.
While I don't make near as much money as he does, I am financially comfortable.
I was a little unsure but he reassured me that his parents wanted to meet me and that if they gave me any blowback, he'd have my back. I agreed and we met at a nice restaurant.
His parents (Rose and Nick) won me over. They made me feel welcomed and asked me all sorts of questions about my hobbies, life and everything in particular. When we parted, I told his parents that I hoped they were proud of Gerard because of how wonderful he turned out to be. They said that they were and they told Gerard to not lose me.
Ever since then, Rose and Nick always ask how I am and how my latest sewing projects are going.
Rose and Nick's 40th wedding anniversary is on February 1st. Because Rose mentioned how much she likes the photos of my projects, I decided to make them one. I usually make my own gifts. The reason for this is because I feel it's more meaningful. For his birthday last month, I made Gerard a needlepoint of Aragorn's standard from The Lord of the Rings. He adored it and has it proudly hanging in his office.
Gerard knows I'm making this quilt for Nick and Rose and helped me pick the fabric. One of my friends has a fabric printer so I got copies of pictures to make panels for the quilt. Things like their engagement photo, their wedding photo, Gerard's baptism, pictures of vacations, etc.
It's coming along nicely.
This morning, Gerard asked me if I was willing to help him pick out a purse for Rose (her birthday is in a couple of weeks). Imagine my surprise when I saw it was a Louis Vuitton purse. I guess that's when it really sank in for me just how much money this family has. I don't know why, but it made me feel really inadequate. Almost like I don't measure up. At once, I got unsure about my own gift.
I'm not sure what to make of my feelings or even if I should be having these feelings at all. Should I bring it up to Gerard? Or should I just keep my mouth shut? Am I being a gold digger?
TLDR: I'm feeling insecure about my gift to my rich boyfriend's parents. What should I do?
Source.
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