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Losing interest (24f) in my fianc? (31M) because of incompatibility and silent treatment. (by Sparky)
Losing interest (24f) in my fianc? (31M) because of incompatibility and silent treatment.
I?m engaged to my fianc? 10 months now(not love marriage)) . He is good person, well mannered ambitious man, helpful, calm and very successful . He doesn?t have close friends and never dated someone before so he isn?t socially/emotionally skilled.
The problem is that we are complete opposites, i?m so emotionally driven and empathetic while he lacks empathy, practical, black and white mindset, and doesn?t easily show emotion. he is overly nice and perfect and makes me the feel like the greatest person alive when things are going well between us until we argue or fight or he gets mad at me, he either turns into a complete cold-hearted cruel, inconsiderate robot and gives me long silent treatment, doesn?t call me for days like i?m nothing to him
Or he keeps twisting things around to make me feel guilty and he does make me feel awful about myself, criticizes every single thing i do or say and never stops nagging about silly things
Of course i?m not perfect too and not easily pleased at all but he doesn?t know how to communicate in a way that sort all the hassle and actions are always *** for tat which makes me lose my temper! I told him many times to stop the way he acts and that it?ll cause many problems, he sounded agreeable with it but never changed a bit and it even got worse. When i confronted him i realized He wants everything to go his way in order to be willing to change.
plus i never felt that chemistry and genuine connection between us and there is always an uncomfortable feeling about him. i kinda like him but never considered my self in love so it makes the relationship more complicated, yet i still wonder if there are any hopes left for this relationship
TL;DR: my fiance lacks communication skills which makes me hate it when I negotiate with him, always gives me silent treatment/ over criticizes me and really stubborn. He also doesn?t fulfill my emotional needs at all.
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I?m engaged to my fianc? 10 months now(not love marriage)) . He is good person, well mannered ambitious man, helpful, calm and very successful . He doesn?t have close friends and never dated someone before so he isn?t socially/emotionally skilled.
The problem is that we are complete opposites, i?m so emotionally driven and empathetic while he lacks empathy, practical, black and white mindset, and doesn?t easily show emotion. he is overly nice and perfect and makes me the feel like the greatest person alive when things are going well between us until we argue or fight or he gets mad at me, he either turns into a complete cold-hearted cruel, inconsiderate robot and gives me long silent treatment, doesn?t call me for days like i?m nothing to him
Or he keeps twisting things around to make me feel guilty and he does make me feel awful about myself, criticizes every single thing i do or say and never stops nagging about silly things
Of course i?m not perfect too and not easily pleased at all but he doesn?t know how to communicate in a way that sort all the hassle and actions are always *** for tat which makes me lose my temper! I told him many times to stop the way he acts and that it?ll cause many problems, he sounded agreeable with it but never changed a bit and it even got worse. When i confronted him i realized He wants everything to go his way in order to be willing to change.
plus i never felt that chemistry and genuine connection between us and there is always an uncomfortable feeling about him. i kinda like him but never considered my self in love so it makes the relationship more complicated, yet i still wonder if there are any hopes left for this relationship
TL;DR: my fiance lacks communication skills which makes me hate it when I negotiate with him, always gives me silent treatment/ over criticizes me and really stubborn. He also doesn?t fulfill my emotional needs at all.
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