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My sister (23/F) wants me (26/F) to be her live-in nanny, she’s upset because I said no (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
21-Jan-18 9:51 pm
My sister (23/F) wants me (26/F) to be her live-in nanny, she’s upset because I said no

My sister is in the last few weeks of her first pregnancy, with twins. The circumstances aren’t the best, and the father’s not in the picture. She’s been relying on family for a lot of support, and I’ve tried to do my best. I live 2.5 hours away, so I’ll hang out with her and help around the house. I just try to make life easier for her when I can. Recently, we were talking about what she’s going to do when she gives birth. I asked if she had childcare lined up, and said that she didn’t know anyone nearby. Then, she offered for me to move into her house and be a live-in nanny for her since nannying is my job. But, she’s only offering a third of what I charge typically (I share my pricing with her often), and she doesn’t live in a good area and her house is kind of trashy. It’d be a huge change, and not one that I wanted to make.
I said a lot of this, but in a much kinder way. You know, “I like where I live, I’m not into a career change right now†and she got MAD. Like, made me leave mad. I told her I wanted to still hang out with her kids and be present for the birth (in her birth plan, her idea), and she said I could forget about it since I didn’t want to be there for her. She said all I cared about was money and myself, and slammed the door on me. It’s been almost a week, and we haven’t spoken. I’m really afraid she might go into labor on her own and need someone, or she’d give birth and I wouldn’t get to meet my nieces. I feel like ****, but I’m not going to take up her offer unless she offers better compensation. Is it rude to tell her this? Or should I just wait for her?
TL;DR: My sister is mad I won’t be a live-in nanny for her. I won’t take the job unless she offers better pay.


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 Critter1211 (11)       (49 / F-MF / Tennessee)
22-Jan-18 4:40 am
Im sure your sister is including free room and board as part of your pay. Ever considered that? You would have no living expensives.

 

 

 
 
 MrWalkSoftly (16)     (58 / M-F / Louisiana)
22-Jan-18 4:47 am
She's all hopped up on pregnancy hormones, give her a day or two to settle down lol

 

 

 
 
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