UPDATE: Am I [F, almost 22] being too clingy or is my boyfriend [30] being too distant?

Original post: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationshi...ingy_or_is_my/
I couldn't wait until Saturday. On Tuesday, I asked him when he was flying back in from vacation and he told me he was flying in around 12:30 AM on Thursday, so I told him I wanted to come over to his house after work that day (today) to talk. He apparently had plans with another coworker of ours (which I was salty about because I figured that he would want to see his girlfriend, of all people, after being gone for two weeks) but he blew them off because it sounded important.
So I went over to his house tonight with a box of his things and gave him the spiel. I said pretty much everything I said in my post then basically laid it down to, "If you're not into me anymore, I'd understand, but please just break up with me so we can find people who are better suited to us, and if you are into me still, then you need to show it." The entire time he nodded his head and looked very understanding.
Once I was done talking, he admitted that he had indeed been distant for the past month and a half, particularly the past three weeks. He then explained that the reason for this is because he realized that we have very different aspirations for the future and he has been racking his brain and talking to everyone trying to find a way to make it work. I asked him what he wanted that I didn't and he said.....kids.
He wants kids within the next couple of years. He said he thinks he'd make a really great dad, and he knows that I'm young and that's not something that I want, and even if it is, it wouldn't be something that I would want within the next couple of years. He told me that it was killing him inside that he couldn't think of a compromise that could work for us to be together because he loves me (first time he's every told me that, and the last). He said he didn't want to continue on in our relationship hanging onto 'maybes' only for us to end up resenting each other or pressuring each other into things we don't want. I let him know that I'm still growing and my thoughts on it could still change, and that right now, my main reservation with children is actual pregnancy and I could possibly see myself adopting. He shook his head and said he wanted children of his own.
He's right.
We cried in each others arms, collected my things, and discussed our boundaries at the office. I let him know that I didn't regret our relationship and that I'm so thankful for all of the good that we had together. I thanked him for being so good to me and for showing me the way that I deserve to be treated in a relationship (before the emotional distancing, of course). He then told me that he was honored to be my first boyfriend as he understood how big of a step that was for me to take and said that I'm the best girlfriend he's ever had and I've showed him love more than anyone he has ever dated before, including his ex-fiancee. He said that he felt for a long time that he didn't deserve love and I showed him that he did. We agreed that we were going to keep all of the gifts that we'd given to each other and that we needed some time apart to grieve but that we would still be friends and that we wished the best for each other in finding people who have the same aspirations for the future. He then walked me to my car for the last time.
****, this sucks.

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TLDR: Boyfriend was suddenly being distant, turns out it's because he realized that he wants kids within the next couple of years and that's not something I want or am able to commit to; he was trying to find a way to make it work but realized it was a non-negotiable for him. Even though he loves me, we broke up.


Source.

C'est la vie. Sounds like you two came to a mutual decision like actual adults, congrats.

I only read the last section...good enough for me.