UPDATE: I [22F] am thinking about cutting my brother [31M], sister in law [27F], and niece [1.5F] out of my life.

Hi everyone, I just figure since my last post got quite a bit of attention, and I recived some messages requesting an update that I would post what I could. I also would like to thank everyone that was kind enough to respond and you all gave some great advice!
Here's a link from last time: (https://www.reddit.com/r/relationshi...y_brother_31m/)
So, basically the first thing I did was take the advice that most of you gave me. I placed an anonymous call into CPS. I gave them as much information that I could (mother is a hoarder, goes off her medication, etc). They basically said they appreciated my call, and that they would add it to her file. When they said "add it to her file" I started questioning whether or not this was the first time CPS had been reported to. Of course the person I spoke to couldn't confirm that, but I found that quite interesting.
Anyways, my boyfriend and I stopped by their house over the weekend for "brunch" and to exchange gifts. To no surprise, the house was absolutely disgusting, but it looks like they had re-arranged some of their stuff (garbage) so it was slightly more presentable than usual.
Now, they moved a while back and actually live on the third floor of a building where there are only stairs, no elevator, so I had an excuse to ask my brother to help me grab some things from the car. Lindsey was preoccupied with the baby, and my poor boyfriend was left alone with her. (Sorry!!)
As we made our way out to the parking lot we just made some small talk, I asked him how work was going, how the baby was, etc. Eventually I asked him about how things were going with Lindsey.
The answer I got was unfortunately what I expected. She was going through some tough times, struggling to take her medication, having a baby was just adding to the stress, and so on. I said I understood, but asked about how that was all affecting him. He said he's "fine" with it, that he's used to it by now and maybe as the baby gets older things will improve.
I asked him if he really thought things would get better eventually. He said no.
I asked him if he was happy right now, or if he's ever been really happy with the relationship. He said no.
I asked him why he stays in a relationship that makes him unhappy. He said he didn't want their daughter to come from a home without two parents and that he was afraid of what Lindsey might do if he ever said he wanted to separate. He said that the second item scared him the most.
I asked him if he felt like she was abusive. He said that she is emotionally abusive to him sometimes, but never to their daughter, and never physically to either of them.
By this point we both realized we had been gone a lot longer than we should've been so we started heading back inside. I told him that our family would always be there for him if he ever needed anything, and that we should try and schedule a lunch together soon. He agreed to that and said while he appreciated my support, he wasn't going to leave Lindsey. He didn't want to leave Lindsey. He loves her too much.
We get back inside and I excused myself to the bathroom (to secretly take some pictures of the apartment), when I hear Lindsey yelling. Lindsey is interrogating my brother about why we've been gone so long, what we were doing, etc. Now, I'm not really sure what she thought was going on, but basically I was already sick of being there at that point. (We were gone maybe 20 minutes when it should've taken around 10).
I started to rush things along, said we should exchange gifts, etc. Lindsey was of course mad my boyfriend and I only got my niece gifts, and them a gift card to a grocery store (I returned all their actual presents). I didn't really care. Lindsey and Jack did not get my boyfriend anything (awkward but oh well I guess-what was I expecting). Lindsey got me a paternity test set thing to see if I'm actually related to my father. *
*Now, this whole paternity thing is a joke in my family. I don't look like either one of my parents, so we joke about who my "real" father is, that I was switched at the hospital, etc. There is absolutely no doubt my dad is my dad, we have the same fairly rare medical condition, along with several other things. It's basically just at first glance I don't look like my mom or dad.
Anyways, I thought she was trying to join in on the joke so my boyfriend and I both laugh about it, but then she hits us with it. "Well your mom is a crazy ***** so I figured you'd want to know the truth". (Ok, so definitely not joining in on the joke). I give my brother the test, and told Lindsey that maybe he should be the one to use it (quite mean I know), and my boyfriend and I got our stuff and left without saying anything else.
So, basically that's our wonderful Christmas story.
We swung by my parents house on the way home and told them what happened, as well as that I spoke with CPS. My dad said he's called CPS twice on them because of their disgusting life style. My mom was quite upset by everything that's happened, but was supportive in our decision to leave.
I was able to get pictures to the social worker on Tuesday. They said that they were very helpful, but left it at that. I haven't heard anything about a visit so far, I don't even know if I would hear about it, but I'm really hoping that one happens soon.
Lindsey texted me a couple days ago calling me a bitch and said that "I can't take a joke". I haven't responded and I haven't heard from her since.
TL;DR: Called CPS, had a heart to heart with my brother, Lindsey is still unstable and extremely mean.


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Damnnnnnn....interesting read lol

Put this shlt on Audible lol

@MrWalkSoftly: I usually don't read these novels, but i did this one lol