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My [24F] parents [50s] want to adopt a disabled child [1M]. I'm not comfortable with caring for the (by Sparky)
(29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
My [24F] parents [50s] want to adopt a disabled child [1M]. I'm not comfortable with caring for the child when they inevitably pass away or that my current siblings will go without attention.
So my parents are going through the adoption process to adopt a toddler with down syndrome. I am one of 5 already, ranging from elementary school to high school. I was comfortable being their caregiver in the event that my parents die, because by 18, they will be full grown adults. However, I'm not comfortable being responsible for a special needs adult for the rest of his life when my parents eventually die. As I understand it, there is a strong possibility that he won't be high functioning enough to take care of himself. I'm sorry if that makes me sound selfish, but I also think it's selfish of my parents to adopt a child that will take 100% of their attention when they already have 4 other children to take care of. I'm really afraid my siblings will get even less individual attention than they get now. Not to mention, my dad is on an extended business trip out of the country for the next THREE YEARS, so it will just be my mom.
I don't have to best relationship with my parents, so I'm not sure how to handle this. I have my adoption interview tomorrow night. How do I handle this? What do I say? I was thinking about calling my dad's sister to discuss it with her. Not sure if relevant but I also had a cousin born with down syndrome two years ago that they spend some time with occasionally, which may have sparked their interest in this adoption.
tl;dr: My parents are adopting a toddler with down syndrome. I'm the oldest and not comfortable taking care of an adult with special needs when my parents inevitably die. I also don't think it's fair for my siblings to have what little attention they get taken away. My adoption interview is tomorrow. How do I proceed?
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So my parents are going through the adoption process to adopt a toddler with down syndrome. I am one of 5 already, ranging from elementary school to high school. I was comfortable being their caregiver in the event that my parents die, because by 18, they will be full grown adults. However, I'm not comfortable being responsible for a special needs adult for the rest of his life when my parents eventually die. As I understand it, there is a strong possibility that he won't be high functioning enough to take care of himself. I'm sorry if that makes me sound selfish, but I also think it's selfish of my parents to adopt a child that will take 100% of their attention when they already have 4 other children to take care of. I'm really afraid my siblings will get even less individual attention than they get now. Not to mention, my dad is on an extended business trip out of the country for the next THREE YEARS, so it will just be my mom.
I don't have to best relationship with my parents, so I'm not sure how to handle this. I have my adoption interview tomorrow night. How do I handle this? What do I say? I was thinking about calling my dad's sister to discuss it with her. Not sure if relevant but I also had a cousin born with down syndrome two years ago that they spend some time with occasionally, which may have sparked their interest in this adoption.
tl;dr: My parents are adopting a toddler with down syndrome. I'm the oldest and not comfortable taking care of an adult with special needs when my parents inevitably die. I also don't think it's fair for my siblings to have what little attention they get taken away. My adoption interview is tomorrow. How do I proceed?
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(58 / M-F / Louisiana)You're 24, why aren't you living your own life?
(49 / F-MF / Tennessee)24 year old ADULT!! Your parents are still of age to have children of their own, is that how you would act towards your brother or sister, or is it just because it's an adopted disable child? Time to grow up you shallow minded bitoch.
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