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Friend (34F) asked me for assurance that her husband doesn't have to worry about me (33M). (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
8-Dec-17 6:51 pm
Friend (34F) asked me for assurance that her husband doesn't have to worry about me (33M).

So I met a close friend of mine that I had a falling out with for drinks after work this week. We had stopped talking to each other about a month ago after she unexpectedly started distancing herself from me. I tried to confront her several times about what was going on until she finally just cut me off completely. Then I get a text asking if we could meet for drinks so I said fine.
We are both happily married and have never expressed any sort of feelings for eachot her other than friendship. We had a great time and she just told me that she had been going through some personal stuff and she appologized and said that she was glad we could work things out.
So at the end of our evening together I just came out and said that I still felt she was keeping something from me to which she responded ,"The real reason I cut things off with you is that my husband asked me if he should be worried about you and I need to be able to tell him at the end of the night that he doesn't have anything to worry about, so does he?".
I was really taken aback by this as her husband and I are also friends and I have never done or said anything even close to inappropriate with his wife. I also thought that the way she worded the question was weird as it's her responsibility to reassure her husband that she will be faithful, not mine.
So once I got over the shock of the question I said of course not, I'm happily married and I respect your marriage and your husband as well and I would never do anyhthing to jeopardise that. I left feeling really confused and hurt realizing that our friendship is probably over because I'm definitely not that kind of guy.
When I got home I talked to my wife about it and she pointed out that her question to me was very weird and she thought that what she meant wasn't that she thought I was making a move on her but that she is actually the one who has feelings for me and wanted to make sure that I wasn't going to try anything because she may have been tempted to do something. She also pointed out that she never said she didn't have feelings for me and never directly asked if I had feelings for her which led my wife to believe that she does have feelings for me.
I'm hoping that's the case because otherwise it means that she was saying that she thinks I'm a low life who wants to cheat on his wife... What do you guys think?
Edit: I also forgot to add that the next thing she said after that comment was "I don't want to lead anyone on"
Tl;dr - Female friend told me that her husband asked her if he should be worried about me and that she needs to know that she can tell him he has nothing to worry about. What was she trying to say to me?


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 MrWalkSoftly (16)     (58 / M-F / Louisiana)
8-Dec-17 10:10 pm
Brings to mind that classis Buckcherry tune...y'all know the one

 

 

 
 
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