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My (26/m) girlfriend (27/f) just got disinvited from a wedding 4 days beforehand. I'm a groomsman. C (by Sparky)
(29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
My (26/m) girlfriend (27/f) just got disinvited from a wedding 4 days beforehand. I'm a groomsman. Considering bailing.Thoughts?
My friend (26/m) is getting married on Saturday. We grew up together and play basketball a few times a year now, so when he asked me to be a groomsman, I gladly accepted. Now a month ago, me and my girlfriend of 4 months met him and his fiancée (20/f) for dinner so we could discuss expectations and I wanted her to meet them since I RSVP'd with her as my plus one (1 month ago).
Dinner went great, we had a blast, found a cupcake ATM, and generally had plenty of feelgoods.
Yesterday I get a call... Friend- "Hey man, I have bad news.."
From there I guessed it. He disinvited my girlfriend. He explained that they both have big families and had more people who wanted to come than expected as well as how his fiancées mom was the one paying. He apologized and I could tell it hurt him to have the conversation, but damn.
I tried to bargain, but he wouldn't budge, and ultimately I told him that was really ****ty, and I don't want to be added stress, but the more I think on it... damn. I asked how many people he disinvited (not that the answer helps anything) and he didn't give me a clear answer.
After a super ****ty conversation.. my girlfriend was disappointed, but she's a wonderful person and didn't raise too much of a fuss, even though I could tell it really hurt her. She is under the assumption I am still attending.
A few thinks of note. The couple getting married have only been dating 5 months and are Mormon (can't drink my way through this one diabdmdishfnskjf). The fiancées mother has been noted as a bridezilla herself, and she is the one paying.
Do I fulfill my duty then phase them out of my life? Do I graciously give them an extra spot for a disinvited guest and bail? Do I shrug it off?
tl;dr: RSVP'd to a wedding that I'm a groomsman in with my plus 1 a month ago. Got a call saying my plus one was disinvited 4 days before the wedding. Considering giving them 2 extra spots.
EDIT so as pointed out below, yes, my girlfriend is half black, half Mexican and I am white. Perhaps I didn't include that about cause I really don't want that the be the issue. Regardless, I'm going to have a serious heart to heart with my friend.
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My friend (26/m) is getting married on Saturday. We grew up together and play basketball a few times a year now, so when he asked me to be a groomsman, I gladly accepted. Now a month ago, me and my girlfriend of 4 months met him and his fiancée (20/f) for dinner so we could discuss expectations and I wanted her to meet them since I RSVP'd with her as my plus one (1 month ago).
Dinner went great, we had a blast, found a cupcake ATM, and generally had plenty of feelgoods.
Yesterday I get a call... Friend- "Hey man, I have bad news.."
From there I guessed it. He disinvited my girlfriend. He explained that they both have big families and had more people who wanted to come than expected as well as how his fiancées mom was the one paying. He apologized and I could tell it hurt him to have the conversation, but damn.
I tried to bargain, but he wouldn't budge, and ultimately I told him that was really ****ty, and I don't want to be added stress, but the more I think on it... damn. I asked how many people he disinvited (not that the answer helps anything) and he didn't give me a clear answer.
After a super ****ty conversation.. my girlfriend was disappointed, but she's a wonderful person and didn't raise too much of a fuss, even though I could tell it really hurt her. She is under the assumption I am still attending.
A few thinks of note. The couple getting married have only been dating 5 months and are Mormon (can't drink my way through this one diabdmdishfnskjf). The fiancées mother has been noted as a bridezilla herself, and she is the one paying.
Do I fulfill my duty then phase them out of my life? Do I graciously give them an extra spot for a disinvited guest and bail? Do I shrug it off?
tl;dr: RSVP'd to a wedding that I'm a groomsman in with my plus 1 a month ago. Got a call saying my plus one was disinvited 4 days before the wedding. Considering giving them 2 extra spots.
EDIT so as pointed out below, yes, my girlfriend is half black, half Mexican and I am white. Perhaps I didn't include that about cause I really don't want that the be the issue. Regardless, I'm going to have a serious heart to heart with my friend.
Source.
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