My (20f) boyfriend (26m) drained our joint account to keep me from being with my sister in her time of need.

Im on mobile so I'll try to keep this short and without any errors; apologies if there are any. For backstory, boyfriend and I have been together since I was 18 and he was 24 but I think that might be coming to an end very soon. I have a younger sister (17f) who is in need of me right now and to be completely honest over it, he's being a jackass.
Okay so long story short, my sister and her boyfriend had unprotexted sex like a lot of 17 year olds do and she ended up pregnant. My parents weren't happy, his parent's weren't happy, I wasn't happy. We all wanted her to end the pregnancy but she didn't want to so we all resigned ourselves to the fact she was going to be a teenage mother. We started getting excited, buying little things here and there. I had already asked off work for her baby shower. Until she lost her pregnancy over halfway through. She had an anatomy scan done and her baby had so many problems with it, it wouldn't have lived past birth. So my sister made the incredibly adult decision and terminated
No one was expecting it. Not me, my mom, my dad or any of our other relatives. None of us were expecting her baby to be incompatible with life but life can be cruel. My sister just...went off the deep end. My parents pulled her out of school and put her in therapy but they have had to take out loans just to afford her therapist and the wake/funeral for my nephew (we later found out she was having a son). SO my parents asked me to come home and stay for a few days while they got **** together, so to speak. They dont trust her alone. She has started talking about taking her own life and being with her son in Heaven but her therapist doesn't recommend committing her so our entire small family is on high alert because we are afraid she will hurt herself.
WHen my parents asked me this, I jumped into gear. Asked off work (my boss already knew the situation and gladly gave me 2 weeks off) but I get paid bi-weekly and she couldn't cut me a check early so I could go home on that. I understood and decided to run it past my boyfriend about taking the money to get back home with out of our joint account and I would just replace it when I got my next full paycheck.
He flipped his lid. He refused to hear me out and was just so mean. Said it wasn't his fault my sister was a dumb ***** and got knocked up. Just incredibly hurtful things - this hasnt been the first time we've fought over money. He is very stringy and likes to control the purse strings, so tp speak but I really didnt think he would react that type of way
So we argued for a bit. I told him that I was going whether he liked it or not. He just kept getting more and more mad and accused me of stealing from him and choosing my sister over him. He then left and I didn't call or text him. I just wanted him to cool down and chill out. When he came back, he started yelling at me againa and toldme to get the **** out of his house. So I left. He was threatenign to call the cops on me and have me forcefully removed (and he could have. Im not on the lease to his apartment and he wanted me gone. He was starting to scare me in all honesty)
I left and went to a hotel which is where I'm at now. I decided **** it, I planned on booking the ticket home anyways. So I logged into our bank app and saw a withdrawel for everything but $25 in our joint account. He withdrew EVERYTHING except the minimum amoutn to keep from fees being added on. He knew I had my very last bit of money spent on a hotel to get away from him and he decided to be a spiteful friggin a-hole.
So my questions are: 1. Is there any way to get the money I put in to our joint account back so I can go home and be with my sister? 2. If not, how do I tell my family that I can't make it home even after promising everyone that I would be there?
I'm really sad and angry and hurt. I don't want to go back to his apartment tomorrow and deal with him but I don't know how to resolve this. I don't want to be with him anymore and I just want to be there for my sister. thanks Dating.mobi

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tl;dr: Stingy boyfriend drained our joint account to keep me from going home and being with my family. How do I get back my money? Is there any way to resolve this peacefully?


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Wayyyyy too much drama for a Sunday, but I will say this...

ALWAYS have back up money. Sure, have an acct with your SO, but always have your own funds, whether it's another account....or a jar of cash buried in the yard. Ya just never know....

Well first of all the apartment was both of yalls whether you are on the lease or not, you get mail there you live there and legally he would have to evict you. Second, yes you can get your portion of the money back once you show what portion was yours. Third, fuk him! I would never see the man again, call your parents and see if they can help with funds to get you there till you can pay them back.