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My (32f) husband (32m) physically hurt me and says I triggered him (by Sparky)

 Sparky (0)  (29 / M-F / Massachusetts)
26-Aug-17 7:22 pm
My (32f) husband (32m) physically hurt me and says I triggered him

Married 8 months, together 3 years.
I've been struggling with depression and sleep issues for a few weeks now and I find it hard to get a good sleep. Last night he kept waking me up. He asked me a question about where something was the first time. The second time he woke me up (he was reading) and told me I was kicking in my sleep. I apologized and tried to stay still but I must have fell asleep again. The third time he angrily told me to get my dog out of the room because it was whining. I asked him why our bedroom door was open allowing the dogs in and he said the dog would whine either way. I didn't hear the dog whining and I am not sure how to stop him so I scooped him up and took him to sleep in the spare bedroom.
I couldn't fall asleep again so I played on my phone for about an hour. My phone battery was low, so I went in the master bedroom to get my cord. When I walked in I was upset because he had called his large-breed dog onto our bed to sleep in my spot. This is irritating because we agreed that the dogs aren't to get on the bed. His dog sheds and is smelly and I get a lot of congestion when his dog has been on the bed so I have to wash all the bedding including the quilts before I can sleep there again.
Honestly I don't remember what exactly was said. I was sleep deprived and annoyed and I know he and I had sharp words. He seemed angry that I had left and I told him it's hard for me to get a good sleep there and he said something along the lines of preferring to sleep with his dog anyway. All I know is he told me to **** off and I told him he was a ****ing loser.
That's when everything went crazy. He snapped and threw something at me (it was dark). He then threw everything off the nightstand and grabbed a lamp. He looked rabid and said he would kill me so I turned and ran out of the bedroom and closed the door. I was actually scared so I tried to hold the door shut but he's a lot stronger than me.
He yanked the door open (I had heard the lamp smash) and he grabbed me by the shoulders and pushed me backwards very hard. I fell flat back. I was shocked and horrified and I just covered my face with my hands and started crying hysterically. He continued to yell and swear at me and he kicked me and slapped me in the head and threw something (not sure what) at me before going back in the bedroom.
I stayed like that in the dark crying and scared for a while. When I finally got up my hip was very sore, my back was sore and my elbow was bleeding. There was blood on the floor. I went to the spare bedroom and just sat there until morning.
In the morning he informed me that it's my fault for pushing him and maybe this will teach me not to disrespect him. I was furious with him but that just made him angry again so I went back to the spare room. He went to work. At work he texted me that he's sorry and he loves me.
I feel like I'm in shock. He's never been physically abusive before, but he doesn't seem to think he did anything wrong. He thinks I "started" it by calling him a loser when he's been so stressed out these days. He also said I don't get a free pass to be a bitch just because I'm a woman.
He's been verbally abusive at times in the past but I'm at a total loss as to what to do. I feel sick. I'm sore and so sad. I live in a town with him where I know nobody. I don't have much family anyway and I haven't made friends here and he has his family and lots of adoring friends around.
TLDR: husband said I triggered him by calling him a ****ing loser in the middle of the night and he pushed me very hard causing physical injuries.


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 MrWalkSoftly (16)     (58 / M-F / Louisiana)
26-Aug-17 7:32 pm
So....you got on Reddit to make a thread about it instead of calling the cops....got it.

 

 

 
 
 Critter1211 (11)       (49 / F-MF / Tennessee)
26-Aug-17 10:35 pm
Wth lady. You need out and out as of NOW. This kind of behavior only gets worse. I didn't read the source link responses, but you need to call the cops so there is a record of this. Next time you might not be so lucky, you might not be here to tell us about it.

 

 

 
 
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