The biggest hurdles of dating outside of your own culture i have exspierenced is the communcation barrier my last relationship of 14 Yrs which the man is the father of my only daughter is from Mexico i am American...when we first met he knew very little English beyond hello and goodbye and the only Spanish i knew was the not so nice words but the attraction was there and we struggled through and it wasn't a big deal until love came into our relationship then it was a major factor ad well as the difference in the views and cultures so we had many many miscommunications to say the least but because we cared for one another we continued to learn each other needs but communication still factored into our daily lives and although we both learned the others language it was such a hard thing until we really began to understand each other but ultimately it ended not because of this but because of hurt feelings stress and just seems we wete strangers again ....now here i am going for love again and have found my affections have favored yet another man of different culture not love yet but a strong affection and although he speaks very good English i feel he misunderstands what i truly mean sometimes and i haven't yet figured out how to put my feelings and views into words that he can understand my true meaning so i get hurt and frusteratd at times and end up being afraid to say anything for fear i will scare him or even hurt or shame him in some way but if the feelings are there it could be worth the work but you have to be prepared because it is a definate challenge and hard work ....!!!

@truehrt4u: It dosent mean when v say smthng the other person wl dnt understand..its upto us how v convay our msg to him or her.felngs spk more thn words,its upto us hw v expres our views,felngs,expresion,love,affection,in wt knd of manner..V shld b awere of such thngs wtch shld nt affect relationship,and alws to b reday to tk chalange aswl. "No MATTER HW IT COMES AND IN WT MATER"...."HOW V FACE ,THATS THE REAL CHALANGE I WOULD SAY"...

@idea: I'm trying to do that dear ..

Every relationship has its challenges & yes, times two if interracial but as long as the couple are sincerily committed to not let the 'ship sink then it worth giving the 101% effort & hardwork ..

God will do the rest ..

It sounds like the communication barrier was just the START of your problems and it's likely that you would've ended up in the same situation; interracial or not.

@truehrt4u: i think love has to be very strong to overcome the challenges life may present, iv never quite been in love because of this reason and thus never had a family of my own, however i have live as a victim of failed love, raised by a single mother in toughest conditions of poverty. unfounded love has sad consequences. anyway, i think one has to not only test the waters, but swim a while.

@geffnyp: very nice concept ..and for the record things are still good if not better now than at the time of this post.

I hope you get what u are looking for because at the end of the day all that matters is how u feel when with that someone special to u. True love i think is not pegged on worldly things but on the value in quality time spent together and how much u cherish each other, it has to be two way and equal, i mean u both have to meet halfway