They look like men but often act like boys. They're not even sure what it means to be men anymore. As they grow up, they learn that to be happy is to be self-indulgent & self-centered. They try to make enough money so that they can have the right TV with the right video games in the right home.
They want to date u and maybe even marry u but they are scared to focus on someone else instead of themselve. Isn't it sad that they see committing to women as a potential threat to their happiness instead of a wonderful opportunity?

They fail to understand that; True happimess comes from being true men. They think & act like boys who don't want their toys taken away. They look up to ''role models in the media who teach them to get as much gratification out of life as possible.'' They may claim to be spiritual or even firm atheists, but pleasure is d god that they worship, whether they realize it or not.

Unfortunately, women tend to be just another part of their hedonistic lifestyle.
Please note this: True men won't treat u like an irritating obstacle or a sexual convenience.

A real man understands that women are to be cherished & treated with care & honour. He sees marriage as d opportunity to be a real-life super hero. He leaves behind his old identity & becomes a new person, dedicated to serving his wife & children.

Although he will struggle @ first, a true man who marries eventually understands that he can't fit through the narrow doorway to happiness if he tries to carry all of his toys with him. There is just enough room for him & his wife, arm in arm, committed to their marriage.

We women can help them become a real men! Most importantly, they want to feel admired by us. Let's help them to know that we love them just as they are, even if there is room for improvement. Let's do this by giving them words of validation; praising them for the things they do well. This means more to them than they let on. In return they'll make sure that we feel loved & cherished by them. They will love to talk to us so we can be heard & understood, not so that they can tell us how to solve our problems. They will also try to learn to express how they feel without withdrawing or getting angry.

With polished communication they can learn that what makes us happy makes them happy too! What a concept! Men are to blame even though good male role models are hard to find these days. They've ignored their calling to become true men & instead act like they're in high school for as long as they can.

Please let's trust that they're capable of more than this. If any woman is frustrated with the man in her life, do ur best to forgive him & start fresh. After a while, if it's clear that he will not become a real man, leave him. U DESERVE BETTER.

A healthy relationship will make everyone involved feel happy. When we are happy, we're capable of living meaningful & fulfilling lives alongside one another.
Thank u for ur understanding & patience as they journey onward to find happiness & become real men

Damn. This must have taken you forever.

@Coolsmile: its looong

All those demands and expectations and you think most men are self indulgent and self centered? Plan on putting him on a leash for walks in the park? Maybe teach him to catch a frisbee?

Wow! My eyes hurt from reading this! Lol.

@Coolsmile: impressing words to hear.

Thank u all for ur response n i'm sorry that it's too long. That is just what i think i can do to make it have an interesting end

It's an overlong load of garbage... Maybe they still allow frontal labotomies over there and you can remove his personality altogether.

Those men are afraid of havin serious commitments and doesnt like to take responsiblity.

@Coolsmile: its too long a post you got here so i haven bothered to read it , but i'm replying your original question !
well its not just men who treat women as sex objects ; its also women who position themselves as sex objects ! Reason may be that its the only thing that they have and only thing that they can offer !!
to stop this women must introspect first ,