Hi ok just want to point out I'm not bashing men. On to the problem now. Me and my ex have been seperated for almost a year now and for the first few months he called his kids on a regular bases. But now he doesn't I got tired of it because thats how my mom did it when I was younger and I remember my feeling toward my conveninte mom. So I told him he should call at least once every two weeks and when its not conveninte for him or he won't beable to talk to them period. He dosent support them or anything. When we broke up he moved straight out of state that day and told me the only way he would move back would be if I was in the package. Did I make the right choice is what I'm getting at? Should I let him call when its only conveninte for him. Or should I put a stop to my kids tears because the don't hear from their daddy? Oh I should let u know that one kid is 4 and the other is 2. And he has done this before with his ex wife

I had the same problem sweety. What i do i pick up the phone and dial it and hand it to my kids. They get to talk to him if he answers. If not they leave a message. If hes busy we try again later. Its just as easy for you to keep a connection between them bye phoneing him for your childrens sake. I dont even have to talk to my ex all. And my ex has never refused to talk to our kids. He will call them back when they leave a message. So just think about it.

I've tried that when I have the kids call him he never answers or calls back

I jus told my kids that there dad luved em the best way he knew how and one day he might figure out how to show em. till then they have me and i luv em bunches and bunches and told em they sure were lucky i knew how to love and then as they grew older i answered the hard questions honestly and without bitterness.....hope tht helps

@LaDawn1974: it does help some what. But I hate it when they cry for him and he doesn't seem to care

@mallory: i truly do understand...had to hire private eye to find my oldests dad when he turned teenager...then had to watch his heart break all over again. and i luvd him thru it to the best of my ability and went out alone and did my own sreaming and cryn for them...btw anyone in bakersfield ca wanna beat the sh*t outta one Ira Andrew Blackwell then I will make it worth ur time ;o)...lmao!

I will say, please you shouldn't have even seperated no matter what cos children thinks and saves in memory whatever happened and when it gets their and such things happens they also takes up what they experienced during their childhood and it not better at all. Sometimes they may think it isn't good to marry at all (fear).

Mum, you see children are gifts from God and children learn from whatever happens in their daily lives till adulthood and might suffer from it as they grow. It's better you to reconcil them to their Daddy to make them happy. If possible you can suggest to their Daddy or let their Dad take them out for picnics or outting, please if you love the wellbeing of your kids. Thanks.

@Crady: you do realize that these thread's are over a year old and that the people are long since gone!

Oh sorry I didn't check, thanks