So a while back i posted that i found an amazing girl. Things are going great. Were engaged so thats a plus. But im out of work. She OFFERED to pay for a ticket me to move up there. And i dont know how i feel about that morally. Here are my concerns. 1) what if things dont work out between us when i move? 2) you hear about scammers on here asking for money to move to the others location and they never do. I know deep down i could never do that to anyone especially her, but what if she starts to get that suspicion? 3) i was raised to support myself if i wanted something i had to do the work to get it. So it kinda conflicts with my moral values. Im going to be on and off of here over the next hour to check comments cause we are texting. Any advice would be greatly apriciated thanks.

Sooooo all of a sudden u don't work for the internet anymore? Wow! That was sudden

Have you even met her yet? If not I wouldn't move or take the money.

If your engaged then why wouldnt you want to be together?

@Briteeyes: i did web design and server security. A company contracts you to build or modify their web site they pay you a chunk of money and your on your way. There aren't too many companies or businesses in my area that need updates or new sites built.

An engagement means u KNOW things will work...so having doubt is a bad sign. So is being engaged before u meet. So is her having to fork out money for u first thing. How do u plan on supporting her if u can't even get to her?

@xSinneDx: firstly whats up man havent talked in a while. All catching up aside i do i just feel bad takeing her money for it to happen. Im torn. On one hand it would be great to move up there. But on the other i feel like im takeing advantage of her.

If you are not sure think about it 77 times. You are young, dont be too excited settling down. Youll just end up divorcing (wen ur married)

@Briteeyes: we have talked about employment options in her area. There not in my fields of training but id do anything to be with her.

@Mikeorman: I agree with bright..but im old fashion...maybe look for a job an talk for a while more..when you save up enough to go there an live make your decision..a woman thats supporting a guy gets tired of it quick