love is actions not words, understanding ,sharing, loyalty ,accepting, sincerity if you have these things in a relationship you got it,

@rigger: very correct

@Briteeyes: I like what u said "u fall in love with d person u are growing to know as an individual" I like d fact that u used d word 'grow' and that's what I'm hiting at. Love grows with time not instantly. You talkd abt d military guy that's a different case cos they are already together before he travelled. They have spent quality time together through tough situation but for someone whom they've not gone through all these how can u diagnose such love?

I agree, so how can you say you are deeply in love with somebody if you never met them in person or been with them,and yes, you can get the understanding, and you can share things over the phone but its still not the same as if you meet that person thats just my opinion.....:)

@heikeva: I agree with you completely

No doubt u cant

actions speak louder than words

My thoughts on this is love is something that you feel in your heart and that you want nothing but the best for them. Lust is just like a one night stand. You see someone hook up and dump them the next day

hahaha wow whew!!! well some people believe love begins when you jerk off with her/him infront of your webcam..... well... love and lust is just one big family. if you just love and no lust you are lost, you lust with no love you are lost. well its just natural, i don't know what else to say, as everyone has said all. only word i have issss just love and lust but don't get lost! wow there is things you ask yourself, the world and both spirit which you never get 100% answer and this is one of it.

another thing is , where you found this kind of love and no lust thing is family love, like brotherly and sisterly love, thats where they exist, and we are not even sure anyways, since most family can have sex with there self, mother sex son, son sex sister, father sex daughter. damn!