Thread: What Do You Consider Ok To Keep Your Loved One In The Dark About?

What Do You Consider Ok To Keep Your Loved One In The Dark About? (by JustMeAndYou77)

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CGPhillips ( / - / )
16-Dec-12 11:20 am

@72Montegoman: Exs,yea good point.reminds me of dantes reaction when his gf tells him how many guys shes been with in the movie clerks.

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LovelySummeRayne (7)

(31 / F-F / Louisiana)
16-Dec-12 11:21 am

well they would probably figure it out anyway once you snap on em, then hug and make up, then snap again... Lol crackin on ya but in a friendly way. Mine would be the fact that im the High Priestess of a coven. Just..seems to be a turn off for most ppl in general really lol. Wouldn hide it, would lie if she asked. But mebe wouldn go out of my way to tell until i knew how she would react yknow?

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CGPhillips ( / - / )
16-Dec-12 11:31 am

@LovelySummeRayne: Yea i understand,because religion and politics are sometimes best discussed between people who just plainly accept you for who you are.

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CGPhillips ( / - / )
16-Dec-12 11:36 am

Hmm,im not female but im sure a lot of the ladys wouldnt openly discuss if theyve had an abortion.Just something that popped inTo my head.

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anonymoususer321
16-Dec-12 11:43 am

@LovelySummeRayne: I agree, Religion and politics generally aren't something to talk about. Though I actually DO if we get serious and I know the girl is christian or such. I will relay the fact I'm more or less Athiest, as I know that's a deal breaker for a lot of girls.

Also, HOW DARE YOU SAY I SNAP! wait...sorry...hug? DON'T TOUCH ME! o-o lmao I didn't take offense to it. Also if I'm really happy -usually am with a significant other-, I generally don't go off much. Though I do at times.

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brats52005 (52)

(54 / F-M / California)
16-Dec-12 4:17 pm

I dont hide anything im a open book. This is why my friends get a kick out of me. The only think i wouldnt tell is special surprises for them and still find out.

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JustMeAndYou77 (17)

(47 / F-M / Florida)
16-Dec-12 5:31 pm

Quoted Post:

And the thing i wouldnt want to talk about is past exs. Because its the past so leave it in the past.if that makes any sence.

Ahh, yes, very good one Montegoman, thanks. This is definitely one of those things the bf/gf could care less about. It wouldn't violate any trust issues not knowing unless the ex is still very much apart of that person's life.

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JustMeAndYou77 (17)

(47 / F-M / Florida)
16-Dec-12 5:34 pm

Quoted Post:

@JustMeAndYou77: I know it's not that mundane but nowadays almost everyone I know is a bit in depression, bipolar or so on. So it's becoming more common place.

I can get bad fits but nothing violent or anything serious serious. Most would be I may get a bit snappy. Most people don't even think I am bipolar, I can control it generally good and am pretty okay around most people. Though alone I can be worse.

So I'd say not a major deal, and only recently did I really believe I was. I was thinking I was just depressed but I think its more. I haven't been checked out, but a lot of things point to bipolar. So I can't really say about past exs. I know a few friends/my two exs still friends with are fine with me being bipolar.

It's funny because anyone I tell I am bipolar, or depressed. Almost laughs as its a joke, because I usually am a clown kinda guy. I just am good at hiding it / enjoying the moment.

I see.... Well, until you know for sure, I don't think disclosing or not would be a dishonest approach.

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polarbear71484 (3)

(35 / M-F / Virginia)
16-Dec-12 5:37 pm

Your past mostly unless you have kids

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JustMeAndYou77 (17)

(47 / F-M / Florida)
16-Dec-12 5:41 pm

Quoted Post:

i have been married more then once, so altho i dont hide it i dont mention details first off. I also have a metal plate and 12 screws in my left ankle that i will discuss but only when the appropriate time comes. Now ofcourse those are examples of when i first meet someone. If we have been together a while, i wouldnt discuss female issues....not my cycle cuz i would discuss that, but other things i wouldnt mention.

hmmm.... I dunno about past marriages. Don't know how it would be viewed by the bf/new husband since you were in a deeper level of commitment with them and children are extra attachments. Do you think divorcing qualifies your ex husband to be treated just as any ex? What if you now have children from both and the fathers will be involved heavily in the children's lives? Do you think it's something that should be shared with the new bf/husband right away or would it have the same impact on the new one as any past relationship?

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