@JustMeAndYou77: I for one think its about the same as applying for a room mate if youinstantly move in together you will know quicker who they are. This has its known and unknown consequences but, as for marriage i think that marriage should at least involve a full rotation around the sun or two or five haha :)

Oh I sooo agree with you missCHIE. My goodness, it was just so fast.

omgg, yourladyoflove! Big hugs girl :)) It's great seeing you. And, I totally agree. I understand that she is in church and didn't want to just live with him, but omg. If you got married and had the honeymoon before the kids got out of school, ya...it might be too fast lmao

I married on my 3 month anniversary of knowing someone...granted i was only 17 so i toss it up to young and dumb. Altho we were together all the time and THOUGHT we wanted marriage and was all lovey dovey we didnt know each other well enough. So theres NO WAY i would do it again, especially if it was someone i met online. It takes more then 2 months to know someone.

It takes a little more than a few months to get to know someone. With my ex between our first date and the time we married was 4 months. Ya we had to speed things up but who knows what would of happened if we waited.

Yes, and there is nothing you're saying wrong here CG. This was the discussion between my sister and her friend when she first met him and moved him in. To me, this is definitely how kids are placed in unsafe situations. And, he doesn't work and she's about to get a job which will place her outside of the home. She's trying to do the right thing, but she went about it all wrong. For her and the kid's sake, I hope it was a good move and he will turn out to be what's best for them. I don't attend the same church but I do know the lady and have been around her children. Other than trying to keep with religious values, I just can't seem to get what happened today. I'm a very slow, almost stagnant person and this was well over my head lol

lol, it's ok bigred. This isn't an easy topic. I still couldn't believe it myself until my sister forwarded the pics to my phone this evening. I was like wow, she was serious.

loool I'll say.... At least take the day off, sheeesh lol

Hi girl, that's what I'm thinking about this whole thing though. It's like she's thinking like a teenager! She's in her 30s...with 3 kids. I dunno, but it is pretty wild. I tried placing myself in this situation to look at it objectively and not just judge, but nope, couldn't do it. I would be more likely to take this risk right now that I'm single than I would if I had kids. I would take time and have a few meetings and dates on my own, sic my mother and sisters on him and have him scrutinized lol, then maybe a dinner with family him and the kids...things like that before just getting married. The fact that he's been to jail and was rehabbing at the shelter wasn't a thumbs up in her favor either.

That's true. I think certain circumstances calls for certain things so I can understand how things don't always fit nice and neatly with life. I understand the cutting and pasting to do things for certain reasons. However, in this situation, she was not pregnant by him or anything like that. As far as we know lol Just being lonely is probably not the best reason.